April 05: A Weekend Away
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For more than 20 years I’ve been talking about the concept of becoming the-best-version-of-yourself. One of the things I love about the concept is that it helps us make sense of everything. It touches on everything. There is no part of your life that it doesn’t affect. There’s no part of your life that it doesn’t help to say, “OK, is this helping me become the-best-version-of-myself or hindering me from becoming a-better-version-of-myself?” And so, the concept is very powerful in that sense.
One of the areas where I think it’s phenomenally powerfully is in the area of friendship. When you think about the friends of your life, and not just your friends right now but the friends of your life, one thing remains universally true: Some people help us become a-better-version-of-ourselves and some people don’t. And that is a two-way street. Some people we are helping to become the-best-version-of-themselves, and some people we’re not. In fact, worse than that, sometimes we’re hindering someone from becoming a-better-version-of-themselves because of the type of friendship that we’re extending to that person.
I think it’s a great area for us to reflect upon in our lives, because I really do believe that sooner or later we rise or fall to the level of our friendships. I really do believe that you can’t make this journey alone. When you think about the spiritual journey, when you think about what God is calling you to, you can’t make this journey alone. That’s why Jesus didn’t send them out in ones, he sent them out twos . . . because he realized people have bad days. People need to be encouraged. People need to feel like they belong. People need a pat on the back from time to time and to hear, “Hey, good job.”
People are people, and that’s you and me. We have a need to make this journey with other people, and other people have a need to make this journey with us.
Friendship is a beautiful thing, but it’s also an enormous responsibility. Our friendship is either helping people or hindering people from making their spiritual journey. Our friendship is either helping or hindering people from becoming the-best-version-of-themselves. And so, today I think it’s good to look around your circle of friends and do an examination. Who’s helping you become a-better-version-of-yourself? And then to look around your circle of friends again and ask yourself, “How am I helping these people to become the-best-version-of-themselves?”
To step it up a notch, to take friendship to a new level, proactively ask, “OK, how can I help this friend become a-better-version-of-herself . . . or himself.
Matthew Kelly, Resisting Happiness
Our best friends encourage and challenge us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves. They don’t let us waste our lives, and they push us to serve powerfully.
Who in your circle is God calling you to encourage or challenge to become a-better-version-of-themselves?
Jesus, help me to strive for meaningful friendships that bring me to you.
Today’s personal reflection features Dynamic Catholic team member Claire Darnell. Claire is our marriage preparation team leader, coming to us from Atlanta, Georgia. Claire absolutely loves weddings (her favorite piece of mail is a save-the-date), drinks peppermint mochas year-round, and enjoys swimming.
Has a friend ever called you to be a-better-version-of-yourself?
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