March 24: The Power of Habits

Day 21

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When you look at people who are successful at anything, they have great habits. You often hear people say, “Well the secret to my success was this,” or, “The secret to my success was that.”

But the reality is, when you dive in, when you really get deep into the daily lives of the people who are phenomenally successful, what you discover is that they have these habits that are just rocks in their lives, that keep them grounded, that keep them anchored. When things get tough, when things are great, these things keep them grounded.

If you look at the lives of the saints, you find exactly the same thing. The saints had these habits that were just sort of like boulders in their day, boulders in their lives, that kept them grounded, that kept them anchored.

And they were not extraordinary habits. They were very, very, very ordinary habits. Think about the habit of daily prayer. It’s an ordinary habit for a saint. There’s not a saint in the history of the world that didn’t have a habit of daily prayer. It’s a really ordinary habit, but when it’s placed in our lives as an anchor, when it’s placed in our lives as sort of an immovable object in every day, it becomes phenomenally powerful.

You’ve got good habits. You’ve got bad habits. Sometimes we get obsessed with a bad habit.

I think particularly when we start trying to grow spiritually, when we start assessing our lives and our character, most of us often come to some bad habits that we realize, “Wow, these habits have got to go. They have to get kicked out of my life.”

I think the amateur mistake is to focus on that bad habit. And in many real ways, whatever we focus on tends to grow in our lives. So the more we focus on it, the more we obsess about it, the harder and harder it is to get rid of that bad habit.

OK, yes that’s a bad habit, but let’s crowd it out of your life. Let’s place new, good habits in your life and crowd that bad habit out of your life so it has no space in your life to live.

Whether you feel like you need to grow a great habit or whether you feel like you need to get rid of a bad habit, I think you have to say, “OK, what habits do I have to create to crowd that bad habit out of my life?” And maybe the good habit is the one, but chances are there’s a lot of little good habits needed to crowd a big, bad habit out of your life.

And we all have them; you’ve got your thing, I’ve got my thing. There are things we struggle with. Sometimes we can be on a great path, sometimes we can be in a fabulous season in our lives, and in that season, we tend to be able to overcome that bad habit, that central bad habit of our lives. But then seasons change and we do experience a storm in our life, or we do experience uncertainty in our life. And it’s very easy in those times for those bad habits to rear their ugly head and to have a place again in our lives.

But make no mistake: Our lives do change when our habits change. If you have not been in the habit of praying daily and you take 10 minutes a day, every day, for the next 60 days or 100 days, it’s going to change your life!

So how is it that you want your life to be different this year? How is it that you feel God is calling you to be different as a person of character and virtue? Reverse engineer it. Ask yourself, “OK, what sort of great habits would that person have? If I was that-very-best-version-of-myself, what would be my daily habits? My weekly habits? My monthly habits? My annual habits?”

A lot of great spiritual heroes had an annual habit of going away on retreat or going away on pilgrimage. So it’s not just the things we do daily. To create this ritual, this rhythm, these very powerful, powerful, powerful routines of habit in our lives, over time becomes incredibly powerful.

It’s like the ocean. You see a huge rock face at the ocean, and you ask the question, “Over time, who’s going to win?” The rock face looks strong, right? It looks powerful, it looks immovable. But over time, the ocean is going to win. In fact, the ocean is winning. If you go back and you look at where that rock face was even ten years ago, you realize, “Wow! The ocean’s winning.” It might take a long time, but the ocean’s gonna win.

Habits are like that. It’s just like the steady, in and out of the ocean. Just breaking down whatever the rocks and barriers and obstacles are in our lives.

“Strong habits will help you break through resistance. Good habits effortlessly defeat it.”

Matthew Kelly, Resisting Happiness

Share this quote.


Habits—good and bad—have an enormous impact on our lives.


Write down your three best habits. Now write down three habits that you need to change.


Jesus, I know that every moment is a chance to turn it all around. Help me to defeat my bad habits and to embrace the habits that lead me to you.

Today’s personal reflection features Dynamic Catholic team member Mary Burger. Mary is one of our event coordinators and comes to us from Cincinnati, Ohio. Mary backpacked around Europe, loves breakfast sandwiches, used to dream of being a zookeeper, and has never eaten a Dorito.

When was the last time you set out intentionally to create a life-changing habit?

Let us know in the comments!

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  • Michael Baur

    A couple months ago I started to back to the gym. I am getting up before work and going to the gym.

    • Susan A.

      I’m sure you are seeing some positive results Michael that will encourage you to continue that good habit. Way to go!!

    • Kelly

      Me too! Well I’m trying to get up before work and go, but I haven’t been successful with it. However, I do then go after work. I have so much more energy! Changed my diet also and have lost 13lbs so far! It is a great habit to force out some of the bad!

      • Lisa

        I had a stress job and went home tired every night. Then I started going to the gym after work and was surprised to find I was no longer tired at night.
        I also know a priest who said his roommate was in a stress job and went to the adoration chapel after work every night and came home calm. He was so impressed by that that he converted and became a Catholic and later a priest.

  • Cathy

    I pray every day which has done amazing things for me. I worry less and am able to give things that worry me over to Jesus. I also pray to Mary our Blessed Mother each day and meditate on a verse from my Mary book. I have also started going to the gym.

    • Susan A.

      Good for you Cathy!
      Keep up those great habits!

  • Teresa Bringardner Morley

    In January I started fasting with our church – they gave us verses to focus on each day and I started meditating on those and writing down my prayers – just spending time with Jesus before I start my day. I intend to keep up this habit. I do this 6 days a week – on Sunday, I help serve at our church and I get my daily dose of God’s spirit through worship.

  • Lori

    Listen to a Christian radio station in my car. The right song always comes on while I am driving. Changed my life!

    • Jeanne Server

      I stared doing this also, keeps me positive and thinking Godly thoughts!

      • Lynn Nguyen

        Me too!

        • Angela Taylor

          I listen to Way FM in the car as well. It helps me to focus my energy on God and here lately I wake up each morning with one of the songs in my head. This morning it was Lead Me to the Cross. It didn’t dawn on me until a day or so ago that this was a special blessing that Jesus was giving me this lent. God bless everyone!

        • Jeanne Server


    • Terri

      I hadn’t thought of the radio station as a habit, but a few months ago in the heat of the election season, I decided that the news stations I normally listened to were bringing me down and making me angry about a lot of things. I drive a lot for work so I decided to switch over to EWTN or Catholic Radio on my Sirius. What a difference! My focus each morning driving to work now might be listening to a discussion on the daily gospel or Pope Francis’ latest talking points. It has made a huge difference in my attitude and reminds me to keep Christ in the forefront of my mind throughout my day.

      • Marsha

        I work in three hospitals in three different communities. ETWN is my best friend as I make those commutes. Keeps my mind on what really matters as I prepare for the day ahead of me.

        • Peggy

          I didn’t realize I could listen to EWTN in the car. What channel is this? Is it on the Catholic XM channel?

          • Yvonne Fuller

            Try 128, 129, or 130 on Sirius. Or just check the EWTN website.

      • Elephant

        And I have grown in my faith and Catholicism just by listening to this station. I love it and am so glad I found this habit. When I get tired of the rest of the world, it is a great place to retreat to. I need to get back into a daily habit of listening. Thanks for the reminder. God bless.

      • Marilyn Russell

        I love to sing, when I walk, when I am happy, when I am sad. It brings me great joy to sing in church and Praise the Lord. I will sing Christmas Songs in March, Easter songs in Winter, songs to Mary our Blessed Mother in Thanksgiving for all the Grace She has bestowed upon me. I am SO grateful to Father God for giving me a voice to sing His Praises through the Power of His Holy Spirit.

      • Ronda Jewell

        Terri, I also was on the road everyday and had to change to music, the Message or EWTN. It is a life changing habit I made and love it.

        • Connie Bland

          Thanks please share by letting me know the radio station for EWTN

          • Yvonne Fuller

            I believe EWTN is around 128, 129, or 130 on Sirius.

          • Ronda Jewell

            EWTN is on my cable channel 393 and then Catholic radio on Series XM is channnel 129. Also on the local area in Ann Arbor MI Ave Maria is on am 990, The Ave Maria station. If you go on line and look up Ave Maria radio it will give you other stations. Have a blessed day.

          • joan Beres

            Or if you don’t have Sirius try listening to Relevant Radio in the Milwaukee area it is 100.1 they are pretty much nationwide. I do the chaplet of Divine Mercy every day with Relevant Radio around 3-3:15 pm. Hope this helps.

          • Paula Hecker

            I have an app on my iPad for EWTN. It is also on 1360 am radio in my area. There is probably one in your area too.

          • Connie Bland


      • Kevin Duggan

        I do some of that as well. Always nice to have a good positive & uplifting lilt to bring a smile. It’s very special when one sticks in your head for the day…

      • JoAnne Collins

        Terri thanks for sharing your story about what you listen to in your car. For me I pray the rosary. I keep a CD in my truck and have found even on my daily erronds I have more then enought time to say the whole rosary (sometimes I finish just setting in my driveway at home). What a beautiful prayer and what comfort it brings me.

      • Connie Bland

        Would you please let me know the radio station for EWTN? Thanks

      • Steven Hotho

        Can you receive EWTN radio on Sirius? I was told it was not available. Told that 3 times.

    • Eileen

      I have had the same experience. I listen to Star 99.1 and love the positive stories and awesome music.

    • Diana

      I agree Lori. I started listening to Christian radio a year or so ago & that is pretty much all I listen to. 1 of my favorites is “The Cross Has Made You Flawless”

      • Sue

        I also listen to Christian radio all the time in the car and it really helps the stress level while driving. One of my favorite songs is Thy Will Be Done.

    • Kathleen

      I also started listening to Christian radio on my way to work it gives me a positive attitude to start the day

    • MIke LaMagna

      Thx for the reminder. Listening to KLOVE on Fm and The MESSAGE on Sirius is a great listener in habit and spiritual journey. PTL

      • Terrill L. Volkerding Denton

        I too enjoy Klove, haven’t heard of the other I shall look for it! Thank you!

    • Elizabeth Gagner

      I too find that having praise and worship music helps keep me focused. I listen in the car, at home and even when exercising as it reminds of Where I get my strength.
      oh! And I blast it when I’m in the shower too!!

    • Connie McFadden-Chase

      I listen to Christian radio when my heart is heavy or my brain is overwhelmed with problems and I need to be reminded of the graces in my life. It never fails to lift my spirit. Silence is the other thing I often turn to during these times. Silence in the morning or when driving to or from work (i have an hour drive) strengthens me and allows me to listen.

    • Kelly Baldridge

      Lori, I hadn’t thought about the radio either. I used to listen to country, but my teenagers, believe it or not, would beg me to change the station to K LOVE when I drove them to their Catholic schools. Then as they were learning to drive, our rule was the driver got to pick the station, so K LOVE (contemporary Christian music, including Matt Maher) would be on as they drove me to school and I would just leave it on as I drove on to work. Soon, I was singing along with all the songs, and now the kids are all grown and I still have K LOVE on my car and home radio, and wouldn’t consider changing it! It is so uplifting, as opposed to the depressing news on other stations!

      • Deborah

        Hope you try EWTN radio some time. Solid Catholic teachings and theology. Since they only play music on certain days, I have Matt Mather on tap and Pandora Christian stations ready.

    • Judy

      I agree Lori, I have anxiety and will listen to a Christian station while driving and it helps to relax and relieve my mind. It brings me closer to God’s word and love. Songs tell stories and relate to scriptures. I find myself singing with great praise! I’m a better person after that. Blessings to each of you! Thank you Matthew Kelly for your daily inspirations!

  • Lynn Nguyen

    Not going to bed on time resulting in lack of sleep was a bad habit. Now I’m going to bed early and getting up early, which allows me to spend quiet time in prayer every morning before starting my day. Life-changing!

    Multitasking was a bad habit. This is still a work in progress, but now when I’m watching a show, or talking with someone, I put down my phone or whatever else I’m doing and focus on doing just that 1 thing. Life-changing!

    I’ve suffered from extreme anxiety in the past so allowing my mind to worry or think about things that will cause anxiety was a bad habit. Now I surround myself with positive thinking by playing relaxing music, listening to inspirational talks/cd’s, Matthew Kelly, etc and eventually those anxious-driven thoughts are gone. Life-changing!

    Letting my mind wander off and not living in the moment was a bad habit. Now I purposely think about what I’m doing, while I’m doing it and being more aware. For example, when I’m holding my God son in my arms, I’m thinking about how I want to cherish this moment forever, feeling his heart beat, holding his tiny hands, and just being with him in that moment, life-changing!

    Sorry for being so long 😊

    • Karen


    • Teresa

      Impressive analysis imo, Lynn. Prayers for you.

    • Level UP

      Not long at all and you broke the post up into paragraphs which is a GOOD habit! Nice job on everything!

      • Lynn Nguyen

        Thank you!

    • Lisa

      Good job. Jesus told Anne a Lay Apostle that “times you are discouraged and unable to serve are times when you are relying on yourself.” I guess that applies to worry and anxiety too.
      All of heaven has such love and hope for us. They are at the ready to help whenever we ask. I used to not want to bother the saints, then I read that when we ask them for help, they are so happy. It makes me think of the mother of an adult child who is struggling. The mother is just dying for the child to ask her for help. Isn’t it true?

      • Lynn Nguyen

        Thanks Lisa for the perspective. And yes i think they do

    • Jesse

      I share all of your struggles Lynn, esp. the first one and still am struggling with it. Thanks for sharing your achievements, it gives me hope. I like to listen to inspirational talks too. Do you listen to Relevant Radio? It’s one of the best Catholic Radio station around. God Bless you in your journey towards adopting positive life-changing habits!

      • Lynn Nguyen

        Jesse I have not heard of that station but will check it out! Thanks for the recommendation! Hopefully they have an app.

        I’ll pray that you will make progress in your habits. Funny how the smallest things can make such a big difference in our lives. Good bless!

  • Peggy

    A couple of months ago I began saying the rosary daily, usually before going to bed. I used to be on my iPad before going to bed and I was having difficulty falling to sleep. Now I say the rosary, do some reading and I have no problem falling to sleep.

    • Lisa

      This helps me too.

  • olive aye

    I go to daily Mass at early morning starting from this Lent. Before doing this, I love to sleep more and wake up late in the morning. Lord, give me strength to continue. Moreover, I started walking on my way back home from office since one month ago.

    • Lisa

      Good job! Keep up the good habit.

  • Jane Deutschlander

    I have made significant changes in habits that have to do with my physical self, better diet, exercise, etc…, but now I recognize the need to create some spiritual habits. I spend a lot of time on my computer, Facebook, jigsaw puzzles, games, that is a habit I am striving to crowd out. Taking time each morning to tune in to these videos has helped tremendously. I only wish they were done year round. I used to be an avid reader, I have a stack of books waiting to be read, many of them with a spiritual theme. I am planning on creating a habit of reading to replace that mindless computer time. I believe that this will help everything else fall into place in my life.

    • Alicia

      I have to admit that I was a Facebook junkie for awhile. Several years ago now I realized how much time and energy I was wasting daily on that activity alone. I also realized that this time could be much better utilized in forming daily habits of prayer and spiritual reading. At first it was difficult to disconnect, but now I don’t miss it at all. After shutting down my Facebook entirely, I now find more joy in actual personnal connections in the real world and time to focus on what is truly important.

      • Ann Feehan

        Alicia, I just did the SAME THING. I don’t miss the nonsense at all. I was totally addicted–often on my phone on FB, even in the presence of other people. Deactivating has given me a whole new perspective–AND a LOT of extra time to use for better things!!

      • Lise Arseneau Lee

        Awesome! This is something I am working on, this lenten season I started with no candy crush game. Similar to you I know my time can be better spent. Thank you for sharing and inspiring.

      • Cathy Graham

        FB always kinda kept me riled up about different issues….religious, political, etc. I actually started not liking some of my friends because of their posts. I got OFF FB entirely last fall and am so glad. So much more peace. I feel connected to my friends through their lives not their posts.
        And, yes, so many better ways to spend my time.

        • Lisa

          I cut back on watching the news for the same reason. A little goes a long way.

      • Carlene Moore

        I use facebook to access Catholic readings about the saints lives and many other articles of learning. God be with all.

      • Bill S

        Very true Alicia. I decided to give up Facebook for Lent this year. The first week was difficult (I would keep picking up my smart phone to look at it) and realize I had deactivated my account. I started feeling like I was perhaps addicted to it. We’re now 3 weeks in and I am not missing it. Just as you, I am connecting directly with old friends and relatives in a more meaningful way and yes, as you say, focus on what is truly important. Blessings!!

    • noniroo

      Thanks for sharing, Jane. I feel the same way about my TV time. Strangely, I’ve begun to feel a strong repulsion for anything on TV…instead of turning it on the last couple of nights, I began reading a book I’ve been wanting to read…

    • Maureen

      Jane, once Lent is over maybe you can start to watch the videos over again. I always heard it’s good to read/listen/watch something twice, once for the head and once for the heart ❤️

      • Dan Matuella

        Great point about listening to series twice….and its effect.
        Yes, so much better than Facebook. I’ve been off the grid for year and a half. People look at me cross-eyed when they realize I’m not on. Meh. Then if they ride with me in my car and I have my Jesus music on, more cross-eyes. Double Meh. 😄

        • CathyPhil Gorski

          Love it! Meh!

    • Nancy R

      I love the idea of crowding out the bad habits. I too need to crowd out some of the mindless computer time.

      • Lisa

        Yes, I’ve tried breaking bad habits by focusing on them. Doesn’t work for me. Crowding out is “almost” effortless.

    • Shawn

      I too have spent way too much time watching TV and being on social media. We have never had cable and decided to connect our TV in the basement to the antenna. Our upstairs TV now only has Netflix and DVD. It is an effort to go to the basement (plus kids do not like to spend extensive time down there) and we spend more time as a family watching movies which is still pretty infrequent. I removed FB from my phone for Lent as I felt like I was on it all of the time. I also have been going to bed earlier, reading and studying at night and getting up 45 min sooner to pray. It has made an incredible difference in my day. Lenten blessings to everyone!

      • Lisa

        That’s great! I know a lady who put the tv in the attic. I heard her kids had to sit on the rafters to watch tv. After a while, they fixed up the attic. Still, most of the kids were older by then.

    • Mary

      There is the Best Advent Ever and Daily Reflection the rest of the year. Also look for Matthew’s book suggestions. That computer does get addicting. Some have it on a desk, some in their hand.

      • Donna R.

        Mary, where can we access the Daily Reflection? I have been thoroughly enjoying “Best Lent Ever,” and would love to have somthing to fill that spot in my day when Lent is over.

        • Mary

          The Daily Reflection is available from Dynamic Catholic, same place as Best Lent and Advent. So often the Daily Reflection is just what I need that day.

          • Donna R.

            Thank you so much, Mary.

    • Kevin Duggan

      Social media sites can be a huge time waster. I have enjoyed the Ascension Press & Ascension Presents, Marian Fathers, Divine Mercy, Word on Fire & FORMED, web sites for good learning with Dynamic Catholic. The FORMED web site is one offered through our church. Good learning and reference videos. Enjoy!

    • Carmen Daniels

      Jane, I am also working on developing some spiritual habits in my life. Initially I attempted the 1% challenge, where I would read the bible and pray for 15 minutes per day. I was rocking it too….for the first 2 1/2 weeks and then I caved to resistance. Since then I have been trying to get back on track to the 1% challenge or even the 10 minutes of prayer per day. I have still been struggling with that challenge. Recently I told myself to start small. I am aiming to pray at least 3 days a week for 10-15 minutes. As I become more successful with this habit I will gradually increase my days of prayer to 4, then 5, and so forth until I am at 7 days per week. I am hoping this will keep me from getting discouraged along the way. Hope this helps you develop your own spiritual journey :).

      • Lisa

        What’s the 1% challenge?

    • Lisa

      Yes, I’m going to miss the pep talk every morning.

    • Mary

      I forgot, the link to Daily Reflections is right on top of this page!

  • John Van Seters

    seeing that my prayer life was lacking, this Lent I committed to praying The Rosary every day along with morning prayer and reading. It’s helped me keep centered on what’s really important, and put my mind on others rather than being self focused.

  • Mary Finnerty

    I started going to confession each week during Lent. It has helped me to be more aware of things that I do on a daily basis which serve as impediment to my relationship with Christ.

    • SanctusSanctus

      Love this! I am more mindful of, “gee, if I do or say that, then I’ll be having to tell it in Confessional” and that seems to help me before sinning! I am trying to think before acting! Lord help me! Have a great day!

  • Sherry McCollum

    Little over a month ago, I have made significant changes to my eating habits where I am trying to eat more healthy and lost weight in the process. Now I am working on changing the way I view my faith and spirituality. This Lent I started praying more, going to church more and just enjoying the life God gave me. In making these little changes, I feel happy, less stressed and loved. Yea, me 🙂

  • Kenny McMann

    When I first began working on becoming sober, I did this by adding all sorts of new habits into my life. Starting with making my bed every morning, doing the dishes, exercising and the working up to attending Church, volunteering, RCIA and becoming active with young adult ministries with the arch-diocese. This Easter will mark my 10th year of sobriety and 11th year as a Catholic. I still make my bed everyou morning, clean the dishes at night and exercise everyday. Change does take time but more importantly it takes effort.

    • Michele Szewczyk

      Way to go, Kenny! I like how you started with the small and continued to build. Encouraging for all of us!

    • Diana

      Congratulation Ken! Keep up the good work.

    • Shawn

      Way to go Kenny! Happy anniversary on your 10 years of sobriety. Keep it up. God Bless you on your journey.

    • Ann Feehan

      Kenny, thank you for sharing. When I was a kid, I was an exchange student to Geneva, Switzerland. My host-mother would call tidying up the room ‘faire de l’ordre’ -which means ‘make order’. Ever since then, I make my bed every morning–even after being married, (despite hubby saying ‘it’s just going to get un-made again later?!’) it is the start to the day of ‘order’. Talk about a simple thing that ‘sets the agenda’ for the day!

      • Elephant

        “it is the start to the day of ‘order'”. I love it!!!! Thank you. I am so bad about not making my bed ever since my children grew up. I think it is time to start this habit over again and then maybe order will return. God bless you!

      • Marty

        Thanks for your story,I made my bed today,first time in a long time.But have to say it did feel like “order” of the day.Thanks for a great tip.

        • Anthony Siwczak

          Yes, making the bed everyday is important to me. Always was and it kind of makes my day start off in gratitude! Like my morning prayers and if I ever not do these things I do not feel right.

      • Sharron

        I love the idea of “the start to the day of order.” Totally speaks to me about making changes.

      • K. D.

        that seems like a great way to look at it and to start off your day in an ordered room….clearing the path for the rest of your day!

      • Phil

        Ann, that’s funny about your husband. I never made my bed when I was single, but my wife did it habitually, and so now I too cannot get up without making the bed.

      • Lisa

        “Tidying up” reminds me of Marie Kondo who has a goal of tidying the world. She has an excellent philosophy – keep only those things that “spark joy.”

        • SanctusSanctus

          Re: Marie K: Ha, Ha! I love her YouTubes! She’s got a wonderful spirit of respect doesn’t she? We can’t take it with us and it’s so true how these material things take up so much time and energy that could be used elsewhere! “Thank you for your service!”

      • Linda

        When you make the bed it’s just the beginning of accomplishments for the day. When you return to that room there is some order which helps us sleep better. Win win

        • Elizabeth Brumann

          When I am able to get up out of the bed it is a beginning of a brand new day for me and god is calling me to start a day with him by praying to him by watching the mass on television everyday and to embrace each new day with a positive attitude and with a smile and not to be worried just to be happy and grateful for the day and to make it a good day for all. It is about the accomplishments of the day and it is about reflecting on these accomplishments that there is some order that helps me to sleep better.

      • Kenny McMann

        That is a great story. Thank you for sharing! I once heard mentioned in group discussion that the first lesson taught in rehab is make your bed. We (addicts) live in chaos and disorder and to get sober requires us to “get out of our comfort zones”. Making our bed in the morning brings order into our life, thus introduces some discomfort to start our day. It’s the slap in the face we need everyday to remind us to stay out of our comfort zones and work for the lives we want.

    • Elephant

      Congratulations! God bless you.

    • Kelly

      Awesome job Kenny! It does take time AND effort and we can see results when we apply ourselves! Very proud of you and your healthy habits!

    • Phil

      Kenny congrats on 10 years. Keep doing it ODAT. I will have 24 years in May and 5 years in the catholic church this easter.

      • Nannette Frances McDonald

        Phil, Congratulations …what powerful changes you made. God Bless you

      • Karen

        So happy for you also Phil! Gods blessings be upon you!

      • Kenny McMann

        Thank you, and congrats on your sobriety. Welcome home to the Church, as well!

    • Mary

      Congratulations Kenny on your sobriety and wonderful habits. Matthews suggestion of crowding out bad habits with new healthier ones really struck me. This Lent I have started going to bed an hour earlier to read my spiritual books instead of mindless bad tv and sleep much better for it. Growing in my faith is a constant goal for me but especially focused on during Lent. Have a blessed day.

      • Rose Dorsey

        Thanks for that tip. I have been struggling with watching bad TV. I thought getting rid of cable would do it but it didn’t. I look forward to being a couch potato each evening and then I regret it. I will try that method of shaving an hour off to use that time to read inspirational material and see if I can increase it as time goes by.

      • Lori Grajek

        I really like that. I’m not sure if my husband and I could give up our TV which is also our snuggle time. I think that maybe if we stop earlier we could each read a devotional book or the Bible before sleep. Thanks for the inspiration.

    • Delia Shuert Kavanaugh

      Thanks for sharing your story! That is truly awesome! God bless!

    • Lydia Ross

      Congratulations, Kenny on your sobriety and your decision to become a Catholic. You seem to have made the effort to work towards your goals by making simple changes. God bless you and hold you in palm of His Hand. Thank you for sharing.

      • Kenny McMann

        Thank you

    • Wendy Noble

      Congrats Kenny on your sobriety!!!!

    • Ronda Jewell

      A beautiful testimony. God bless you on your sobriety.

    • Mel Purdy

      You brought a smile to my face this morning! You are hope for so many that are suffering from addiction.
      Congrats on this mile stone. Keep on working it works if you work it– good habits!

    • Sharron

      Congratulations on your ten years of sobriety…and thank you for your ten years of sobriety.

    • Mary Christopher

      It has been so long ago that I became totally sober that I don’t remember the date, but thanks to God and my family I am, and I intend to stay that way. It is a stuggle and stays that way also. It sneaks up on me at the most unusual times, but with GODS help and my family being so proud of me, I will defeat it forever.
      You are an inspiration, as you see by all the responses. Keep it up, it is so wonderful to be sober and in church. Mary

      • Kenny McMann

        Thank you and God bless!

    • Janet Marusiak

      Congratulations Kenny for staying sober one day at a time and you have the power of Jesus in you to help you stay strong too. The AA program to many are like a religion and it is prayerful especially the serenity prayer. I once went to Al-anon so I understand the great feat you undertook. We all have bad habits, and to change them we have to make good habits to replace them. Going to church, prayer, missions,marriage encounter so many RC programs out there to get involved in to help us grow and be strong in the spirit to fight the demons we have. Over-eating, smoking etc. and I find those bad habits have a positive too in that it makes us humble, we know we are not perfect and not in control, God is though and He can fix anything if we allow HIm to work in our lives and put in the effort too. I need to listen better as my manners are not the best at times and need to listen to God and not resist going to Mass every day. I am caring and loving and want to help others any time I can and love all people. I try to see Jesus in them as I meet them.

    • Nannette Frances McDonald

      Kenny, Thank yo for sharing! What a life changing habit you made…becoming sober. Congratulations on a life well spent. God Bless You

    • Kevin Duggan

      Well done Kenny, keep it up.

    • Judy

      Congratulations Kenny. What a wonderful accomplishment. You broke a bad habit with good ones. I am on the other end of that scale. Alanon changed my life when I made the decision to turn my will and my life over to God as I understood Him.
      I am now learning more about my Catholic faith in daily prayer and in learning how to be a better version of myself daily.
      I am learning how to trust again and keep myself in the Presence of my Higher Power, my God. Thank you for sharing.

    • LJ

      I really like what you said and hope for your spiritual life and development, pray as family for me and I do for you, who are in the family of faith.

    • Maria Guadalupe Moran

      So good for you! God will keep you strong and may he bless you always!

    • Carl

      Congratulations on your ongoing recovery. I just wanted to Thank You for your last sentence because it is right on target.

      I worked in a substance abuse program quite a few years ago. One day during a group, I asked what stops people from “getting it.” Almost immediately, a member expressed: “I can answer that. It requires change and change takes work – and most people don’t want to do the work!”

      He doesn’t know what an impact he made on my life! When I feel that things are not working out the way I would like, or that God is not answering my prayers, I ask myself if I have been doing the work. (Wanna take a guess what the answer to that usually is?!)

      • Lori Grajek

        Thanks for that comment, Carl! My life is full of change right now. My Mom died, my Dad needs driving (blind) and has slight dementia so I need to constantly be checking on him. Also, my “baby” is graduating High School and is more independent than his older brothers. It makes me feel like an empty nester already. So doing the work of adjusting to these changes has been stressful for me. I will make it a habit to try not to get lazy.

    • Katie Linkhauer

      Thank you so much for sharing. The habit of making the bed every morning feels like such a small change, but it really helps! It’s a nice way to reset for the day, and it also helps the bedroom just feel a little neater. Congrats on your decade of sobriety, and I hope many more healthy years are to come!

    • Cindy Leslie

      Thank you Kenny for sharing. I will do the same though not everything. I’ll make my bed, clean and go to Church more than once a week too! God bless you! Please pray for me.

    • Renee Rina Cauchi Bowman

      Kenny, your story is really awesome.

    • Karen

      Thank you Kenny for your story. So happy for you! Helps me to want to start new habits too!

    • maureen cabrera

      awesome!. we are blessed with your sharing Kenny. thank you for sharing that LIGHT within YOU, and continue to do so, in you power, might, and will as that is allowing the POWER of THE HOLY SPIRIT to continue to reign supreme in your coming and going.

    • Debra Kyser

      First of all, I want to congratulate you on 10 yrs of sobriety! It gives me hope for my son who has only been sober now for 5 mon. I am praying that he will get a life of faith again. I did give him this book to read, but uncertain if he will or not. As I have found, one step at a time as they are ready. It took many years of praying for his addiction. Out of the blue he quit and moved into a sober house as he calls it. I am curious of how it all came about with you?

      • Kenny McMann

        In the Summer of 2003, I was arrested for my 4th alcohol related offense…two months later I was arrested for the 5th. At this point in time I know I had a problem and I was scared I couldn’t control things. I actually started going to AA and chemical dependency sessions, at some point I began to pray the prayers but refused to say God. Over time I began getting better and even began saying the full prayers (Lord’s Prayer and Serenity).
        Long story short I stayed sober for about 1 year then fell off the wagon again. Shortly thereafter, I began becoming involved with Catholism. I was found not guilty of my 5th offense and joking made a deal with God that I would go to Mass to say thank you. Eventually that became a weekly habit, which prevented me from going to the bar on Saturday. Saturday mornings I began volunteering for Habitat for Humanity, through the parish. This kept me out of the bar on Friday. Eventually I began attending RCIA on Tuesdays, which kept me out of the bar on that night. A Finally I had my last drink Easter weekend 2007, and have never really looked back since. I thank a pilgrimage to Lourdes and my wife (who God led me to during this time).

        • Debra Kyser

          My son got arrested many times too. The alcohol led to drugs-( manufacturing marijuana), thief and felony assault. He was clean while incarcerated and probation for a few years. Then he started just drinking and got in a parking lot accident totally his car, but mostly drank at home. He had taken Anger Management twice and tried counseling. He does now go to AA, as he is in what he calls a sober house now volunteerly. Now he is working 3 jobs to keep him busy like you trying to find things to do to occupy so as not to drink. But he has not gotten back to faith yet and i would appreciate prayers for him. His name is Josiah and he is 29. I like what was said about getting sober requires one to get out of their comfort zone and working for the lives we want. He has a new place to live and two new jobs with the old main one gone.

    • Andy Hovey

      Congrats, Kenny! Prayers on your continued success and being an example and witness to others in re-creating you into the best version of yourself, for the Glory of God. God Bless! : )

    • Mary R

      Kenny thank you so much for sharing your story. I am a nurse and I work on a detox unit. I am going to share your story with my patients who are struggling with addictions. It is a tool I can give them!
      One of the wonderful aspects of our program is involving AA volunteers. They come and talk with our patients to give them hope. Funny thing about volunteering though they all say that it helps THEM so much. If you or any other addict are looking for a way to help others and keep sober this might be an idea. See if your local hospital has a detox unit and would welcome you to come. I bet they would jump at the chance. Will pray for you all. I know how hard it can be.

    • Kathleen Winchester

      Congratulations Kenny!

    • Anna Brady

      Congrats Kenny !! That’s wonderful. Keep up the great job. I bet doing those things makes you feel great. Doing positive things helps you and others.

    • Nancy Dreher

      YOU ARE AMAZING!!! and yes, I am shouting that!! Love your success story!!!!

    • Paul Curran

      My wife died last year. I make the bed because she had a habit to make the bed first thing in the morning. And I try to keep that habit because it reminds me of her. And it brings order to the room so I feel more relaxed when I return at the end of the day.

      • Lori Grajek

        God bless you and comfort you.

    • Mary Brennan

      Congratulations Kenny ,keep up all your good habits

    • Michelle Noel

      Wonderful. So happy for you. Our son is battling alcohol, I pray he can overcome this horrible addiction.

  • Angie Engledow

    About a year ago, I decided to back to church. I told myself I will go once a month and that was good enough. Then it started becoming twice a month. Now, I go once a week! I guess you could call going to church weekly a “habit”. But, I would also like to call it a way of life. I feel be going back, I have grown, and developed new and better habits. Starting me week with mass puts me on the right path for a good week!

    • Alicia

      Welcome back 🙂 I agree, my week is definitely missing without a least weekly Mass.

    • Kevin Duggan

      I agree. Welcome back. The richness and beauty of the Catholic Church is something I learn more about daily. I wish I had started much earlier in my life. But this is where I’m at and I go with it! Thanks for sharing Angie.

    • Karen Kotzbach McCreary

      Good fort you ! There is something to the idea of it feeling like coming home Home is where the heart is as the saying goes . Truer words never spoken when “home” is church and god and HIS loving Son are there . God the Father and your brother , Jesus . What peace you must feel ! Keep up your new “old” habit . Now it is Life ! Happiest of Easters. Do try to come to Holy Week services. Holy Saturday is the one I wait for all year . Hope you make it . Love *_* K

  • Nancy D.

    I am constantly trying to work on myself. I would say so far watching this daily video is wonderful. Like Jane says below, I wish they were year round. Once this video series is complete, I do plan on trying to read the Bible every day in its place. Also, because of this video series, I have added daily prayer to my routine, which is a great habit.

    • Elephant

      I started reading the bible everyday for 30 minutes. A friend told me that God wanted us to do that. So, I started that habit and I am so glad I did. I pray my rosary first and then sit down and read. It is a great way to start the day and if I don’t get to do those 2 things, my day is not so great. I do this before even eating or having my coffee. It is a sacrifice I offer for the salvation of my children. (The breakfast and coffee, not the reading and praying.) 🙂

  • Bruce

    I have enjoyed these reflections, my niece sent this information to me a couple weeks before Lent started and as usual I have a BAD habit of putting things off. Well, I started watching all the reflection videos this past weekend, and have really enjoyed them. I look forward to a new segment being sent to me each morning at 6:30 , to help me start my day. In fact , I have forwarded them on to many of my friends, some who are going through trying times right now.

  • boulders124

    I start each day spending about an hour in prayer. When I fail to do so, I find my day doesn’t;t move along as I want it to. Whenever, I face a problem, I stop and ask God for the answer. He never seems to fail even when it’s not the answer I;m looking for.

    • Alicia

      I agree, when I am neglectful of my prayer life there is a huge difference in my daily life.

  • Marie Paschke

    A year ago I started walking 30 minutes a day. While on the treadmill I listen to Christian music or read Christian books. It’s an inspiring way to start the day!

    • Shawn

      I have been working out consistently for 9 months and cardio is not my favorite thing, so I have gotten in the habit of praying the rosary while I am on the bike or treadmill. When it gets tough to focus, I just offer each Our Father to a specific cause and each Hail Mary to an individual or group of individuals; i.e. our government, our church leaders, my family, etc. The time just flies by so much more quickly!

  • John L. Kemmis

    Last July I plunged myself into painting with soft pastel sticks and thus into (a habit of) regularly sketching or painting something, even if it is just applying a bit of color on paper. This has led to an appreciation of art and a search for subjects, which that is now become a habit.

    Discovering the feel and the appearance the pigments on my fingers and on the paper kitchen towels I use to clean those fingers, has spiked my search for God’s voice and presence in what I see, touch, feel, smell, and taste. In church, I now look around and observe the structure and the people in awe and wonder. And I take time to reflect on those observations spiritually. I seem to be more aware and more present, but my wife would probably say that isn’t true. lol

    I am not sure where this painting habit is taking me. But I am confident that God has a plan to use that, and to use me at some point.

    • SanctusSanctus

      I would love to see the Christmas greeting card you might make!

      • John L. Kemmis

        I did a few last year, though mostly of Christmas tree ornaments and a few Christmas Stars.

        • SanctusSanctus

          I am amazed at some persons I know that didn’t start painting until they were in their 40’s! They became wonderful artists and even taught other students. This makes me wonder how many of us have “untapped talents” yet to be uncovered or discovered! Have a great day!

  • Karen Buitrago

    Thanks for the Catholic Radio tip! Fabulous idea as I spend a lot of time in my car as well. Reading 10 min a day minimum is a new habit I will work on as well. Have a blessed day!

  • noniroo

    Beginning this week, my husband and I began setting the alarm for 6:00 am to pray the Rosary together, and then attending daily Mass. I had gotten in the habit of sleeping late and wasting a good part of my mornings, and then wondering why I didn’t have time to do the things I need to do for myself. Today is our 5th day of saying the Rosary, and in 5 short days I’m already beginning to feel more organized and disciplined! Like the young lady said in the video, somehow just one good habit can set us up for more good habits. I’m beginning to think it might be possible to begin working out again 🙂

    • Elephant

      You can do it!

  • Mary B.

    This lent I decided I wanted to strengthen my faith and spread the good word of Jesus, instead of giving up wine, bread or desserts! I set out with the intention of doing one random act of kindness each day! I thought this would be easy but it turned out to be quite challenging. We all naturally do nice things for people on a daily basis, so I felt I couldn’t include that as a random act of kindness. I found that I needed to remind myself each morning to be on the lookout for something I could do to make someone’s day brighter! If I didn’t get in the habit of reminding myself, the day would pass and I would feel that I didn’t accomplish my goal of the day. Now that I’ve gotten into the habit of thinking what I could do each morning, I find myself doing more than one random act of kindness, and more important, really going out of my way to make it meaningful! I am hoping to continue this habit even after lent is over, it is definitely making me a better version of myself!!

    • Marianne

      Mary B-I love this idea. Thank You!

    • Debbie

      Would love to hear more about the different kinds of random acts of kindness you uncovered.

    • Patti

      What a great idea! I love this. Thank you for sharing. Not only a way to make others feel better but it would seem that this would make oneself feel TONS better, too. In other words, getting back even more inside than you are

    • LosmanPO

      I agree with Patti. This is a wonderful idea. This is a great way to deny yourself, putting God and others in your thoughts and actions!

  • Nancy Britt

    2 weeks ago, I went on a 26 hour women’s retreat at church. During that time, I only checked my phone to make sure that there was not a missed call or text from my husband or boys. Typically, I would have been distracted by my phone or the need to check social media. Honestly, I didn’t even have the thought or desire to look at my phone. Basically I was “unplugged” for 26 hours and I have to say, it felt AMAZING! One of the things I realized during that retreat was that Facebook is a great source of stress for me. It brought on feelings of anger, insecurity, disappointment and uncertainty and I never realized it. I have continued to be “Facebook Free” (and Instagram) and feel so much more at peace. It was supposed to be a place to share happiness but when something loses its purpose in your life and creates negativity, it is important to get rid of the habit. I have replaced that time with reading which I never had time for before. Well…I did but it was consumed with a bad habit. I now look forward to my quiet time of reading and find that I am able to think more clearly and with a more peaceful and patient approach. I want to begin some positive habits in my life and I will be making a list of things that I feel are realistic and attainable and begin with one or two and slowly add more. It is time to crowd the bad habits out and I have a few that need to be “kicked to the curb”! Wishing everyone a peaceful and blessed day! God bless!

    • Kathy

      Nancy, I felt the same way about facebook, especially after this last election. I began to dislike people that I had always really liked. I was participating in conversations that just made me angry and unsettled. I decided to give it up for lent and am so much happier! I don’t miss it at all!!! My problem is I don’t want to get back on it yet I have so many friends and relatives that don’t live close to me, and this was my way of staying connected with them. There really is so much good about Facebook, but the negative stuff just sucks you in. I’m praying about what to do about that now. Any suggestions out there?

      • Elephant

        It’s interesting, without realizing it I have distanced myself from FB. I have spent WAY too much time on there especially with all the political stuff going on. I love seeing and watching my friends lives, but the rest of the stuff does get in the way. Maybe we should block everything except for friends feeds. Can we do that? I have also found through FB a couple of good groups that I participate in that give me the out I need for my political encounters that are positive and fulfilling, but I am not spending much time with them now. I am loving this Best Lent Ever series. God is so good and I love Him so much. God bless and have a beautiful day!

      • Joanne

        Hi Kathy! I too had started to be angry and unsettled about Facebook. I found good in following what was happening with friends and family, but the bad crowded it out. I decided to “give it up” (actually a trial discontinuation) for Lent and I like being Facebook free. I wouldn’t check it all day,, but I would spend too much time on it in the morning and sometimes was late to work because of it. That’s a bad habit. I’m pretty sure I will reconnect after Easter and notify my friends and family that I’m taking down my page and that they can email me or write me if they want to contact me–one on one. I will see how many friends I have after that happens.

        • Kathy

          I am thinking I may disconnect too. It will be interesting to see how many friends are really out there! 😏

        • odette

          very good i did that for a year, it was awesome, now i’m on facebook to evangelize.after i post best lent ever video, i sign out..

      • Joyce W.

        I would like to disconnect from FB, even though I only have 8 or 9 friends. I have restricted myself to once a day for Lent and plan to continue this. Like you, Kathy, I am only on it because of our small family. I’m trying to limit “liking” as well, and think carefully about what I “like” as I don’t want to endorse any point of view that does not concur with my faith. I do like to support certain posts to encourage people or children with Down syndrome, or people with disabilities.

    • Sharon Brozovsky

      I share your FB experience … I, too, am reading more … thanks for sharing.

    • Bill S

      Like many of the others here, I gave up Facebook for Lent and am not sure I will go back. There was way too much negativity and drama after the election and it was just making me angrier and angrier. Ever since I deactivated the night before Ash Wednesday, I have been at peace and more focused on what really matters in life. I am a full time caretaker for my wife and she needs my attention more than FB needs me. If I do go back to FB after Lent, I’d better figure out how to block stuff out. We have grandchildren who live very far away and it’s one way we are able to keep track of their activities. There are positives to social media but way too many negatives.

  • Doug

    Historically, I have changed habits continuously. I was trying to find the best routine that made me happy. What I found was that, since my conversion from merely a Catholic Christian to a Catholic follower of Christ 5 years ago, when I changed habits it was how it affected my spirituality. I am always looking for change, if it makes sense, to better my intimacy with our Lord.

    I have changed physical habits…eating carefully (I’ve always hated vegetables), began doing cross fit and became less focussed on material things. However, spiritually, I began reading scripture, praying throughout the day, going to adoration and I’m sure they’re will be more changes.

    The most important habit I changed over the past 5 years is my ability to speak frankly about God’s plan, but with humility. I no longer am apprehensive about my support of God. I accept any question thrown at me and answer without any judgement and definitely with no preaching.

    Example: I am friends with a Presbyterian church here in Charlotte. I know the pastor well, but was always apprehensive to ask her whether she was pro-life or pro-choice. She is pro-choice as well as her staff. I am confident that I have rebutted every reason why pro-choice is not God’s plan. She is still my friend and I pray for her, and her congregation every day that her eyes will be open to God’s intentions.

  • Mary Dolan

    When I began my new habit of participating in a spinning class 3 days a week, I didn’t ask myself do you like this? It was intense and challenging, but I knew if I stuck with it the benefits would come. Even new “healthy” habits can feel not worth it in the short run…many good changes take time!

    • Ann Feehan

      Mary I did the same in 2009, in preparation for a Medical Mission with Helping Hands through Catholic World Mission. I was out of shape and afraid of the hiking in the hills of El Salvador. It stuck! I am still spinning 8 yrs later! Spin is addictive too! I still spin twice a week, it has brought my blood lipids down so I can go off Lipitor, I am energetic and active and aerobically conditioned!

  • Alice Ann Hengesbach

    Oh my goodness, Mary Burger shares one of my goals. As I was listening to Matthew, the thought of “more sleep” crept into my morning brain … sometimes God is NOT subtle AT ALL! Yep, simply starting to get ready for bed a bit earlier : ) Thank you Mary for forming your good habit and thereby helping me to form one of mine. Blessings.

  • Carolyn

    With breakfast I read the daily mass Scripture readings to prepare for going to mass. That is a good habit.

  • Dorothy Cabral

    The min I read today’s question I immediately responded “the day I found out I had cancer”. I went home that day from the doctors office sat down and began to reflect on my life. There was so many things I wanted to change: work less, focus more time on my children and my grandchildren, decrease the amount of time I did valunteer work but the thing that stuck out the most was my desire to and wand to grow spiritually. I knew, if I was going survive with any kind of peace in my life, I needed God more than ever to face the challenges of cancer.
    It’s not that I didn’t know God, I mean hay I was brought up catholic, attended mass weekly, said some prayers, almost nightly, served on parish Counsil for 12 year and even recieved the Marion Medial! Wow I was an outstanding catholic. But something was truly missing. I wasn’t the best version of myself, I needed a more intimate relation ship with the Lord.

    • SanctusSanctus

      So happy for you finding Him; praying for you and please pray for me. Have a great day!

      • Dorothy Cabral

        I will pray for you as well, may have an intament relationship with our Heavenly Farther as well!!

  • Michael D. Henson Sr

    Since last year when I first started listening to The Best Lent Ever Matthew stated to pray everyday and since then I wake up every morning a little earlier and pray everyday. Wow how it has changed my life. Read 1.peter 5:7 put it in his hands. Thanks Matthew Kelley for you inspiration and passion. I also join as a ambassador to help him spread the good news of our Lord. God Bless

  • Diana

    What a wonderful way to break a bad habit, just crowed it out with good habits! I never thought about doing that. Thank you Mathaw for that great advice.

  • Patsy Kling

    Listening to the rosary in the car on my 35 min drive helps with anxiety about my day. I also pray it on the way home in Thanksgiving for the day that I had.

  • Karen Galloway

    I worry about everything! This Lent I am giving up the worry and turning my concerns over to the Holy Spirit with Mary’s help–so hard!

    • Marianne

      Me too, Love this idea. I will attempt this also!

    • snowmanjack

      Worry! Oh so common. This used to be a bigger problem for me, but now I’ve come to recognize when worry and anxiousness are consuming me. By turning frequently to Philippians 4, it’s really helped remind me to stop, let go, give thanks (yes!) and turn my worries over to God. I’ll add a few of my favorite related quotes:

      – Worry does not take away the troubles of tomorrow, it takes the peace of today.
      – Old man on his deathbed: “I’ve had a lot of trouble in my life, most of which never happened.”

      Phil 4:4-7: Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

  • Pat Dodd Polito

    I set out intentionally to create a life- changing habit on Ash Wednesday. I set my alarm to get myself up a wee bit earlier so I can start my day in prayer and reflection. I have made starting & ending my day every day in prayer a priority. I can’t tell you how much of a difference it has made in my life even in this short time. Honestly, I look forward to spending this time with God !

    • David B

      That is great. Ash Wednesday wanted and still want to change an eating habit. I’m still working on it. Thank you for sharing

  • David B

    Last lent I started listen/praying the rosary on my morning walk. I have kept it almost everyday since.

  • Jean

    I have been starting my day out by reading USCCB, The Daily Mass readings and pray at my computer. The next thing is to read the Best Lent Ever. It has given me time to pray and reflect.

  • Jacqueline Shukla

    Praying every hour that I am awake, as suggested by this Best Lent Ever series, is my newest habit. I have been keeping a list of prayer intentions and I carry it around with me so when the next hour starts I can glance at the next one on the list. I used to pray a quick prayer of intercession and add a Hail Mary or Our Father for and intention but now I also dedicate the hour to them. I have a lot more peace in my life in the past several days because of this new habit.

    • LosmanPO

      Jacqueline, thanks for sharing this. I have been trying this as well, but have fallen short. My hourly alarm goes off and then it feels forced trying to think about my prayer intentions. Keeping a list is a great idea. I can prioritize them ahead of time or even simply repeat intentions if that is what God leads me to do. I will try that going forward. Thanks again for that great idea.

  • Rebecca

    About two years ago, I started working out on a daily basis and eating healthy. Eventually, I lost this habit but picked it up again. Ever since I started focusing more on my health, I have had more energy. I think this has lead to my spiritual life becoming more fulfilling.

  • Daniela D.

    I am doing it right now! I haven’t fail a day during this 2017 Lent waking up early and following the daily videos and reflections. I help myself by not having breakfast until I finish both videos and spend time sharing my thoughts. Is a small change, but the results are great.

  • Maureen Gomes

    While changing channels on TV i came across the Catholic program & Fr.Cedric.His preaching so touch my heart & always seem to touch how i was feeling.i now watch daily,say the Rosary & Thank God for all the blessings weather Good times or Bad,I am thankful.

  • Nancy R

    I am naturally a habit driven person. I left my job of 19 years in August 2016. I feel blessed to have had the luxury of truly focusing on changing my life and the lives of my family since that big life changing event.
    Adding spiritually and God back into my life with the help of Dynamic Catholic and all of you has been the most rewarding personal journey so far.
    I’ve enjoyed the daily habit of watching the videos and reading and engaging in the comments.
    I’m becoming more aware of my treatment of others and extending help or a caring word or smile to someone I think could use it.
    I’m beginning to recognize God’s work throughout the day and am learning to appreciate it.
    I’ve also added daily mass and prayer to my work of habit building.
    It’s a wonderful journey and I’m excited to continue to ezperience more of these precious gifts.

    • Lynn Nguyen

      So happy for you Nancy! We spend so much time at work that unfortunately it easily becomes the center of our lives. Glad you were able to make that life changing decision.

    • Robert

      Way to go!

      I’m on a similar path but mine has had some pot holes as well. The void created by the removal of a 9 to 5 (or should I say 6 to 6) job had also allowed some of my not so good habits to germinate.

      This program however has me dedicating a good hour each morning to my faith and finding the better version of myself. And I see the impact throughout the day as I try to apply the lessons learned.

      As you stated so well, i too am enjoying this journey and the experience of all the gifts granted to us! May we all continue to grow and discover.

      • Nancy R

        Thank you Robert, I wish you all the best! We are very lucky.

  • Nighten Gayle

    So thankful that we can change our habits. Like another comment below, a few years ago I was a secular talk radio junkie. It was really bringing me down. Very discouraging and it was making me not so nice of a driver. That was the time that I became interested in Catholicism so I started listening to Catholic radio. I was able to replace the negative banter of secular talk with a ray of “hope” in Catholic radio. Not long after that, I was in RCIA and my fallen away Catholic husband was attending with me. This June I will celebrate my first full year as a Catholic (had to wait an extra year while my husband’s first marriage was declared null). Both he and I have become active members of our parish.

  • Janet

    Hi Mary, thank you for sharing your story. We met you last April when you came to our parish with Matthew in April and we truly appreciate you.

  • Joanne Melear

    Our parish has a Catholic Listening Library. We can borrow CDs to play and then return. I have been doing this for the past year, listening to them in my car. In fact, that’s how I learned of Dynamic Catholic and then bought tapes, as well. For example, Matthew suggested that the best way to begin reading the Bible daily is to read the Gospel of Matthew, Genesis, Proverbs and then the Psalms. That is becoming a habit for me. I am 72 yrs old and never did that before and am so glad that I am doing so now.

  • Peggy

    Another option while driving is to turn off the radio a bit to talk to God & pray. Friends of ours always begin a trip with the rosary which is a great habit.

  • Susan

    I also love listening to a Christian radio station when driving….K-LOVE My daughter had it on in her car when i was visiting her in Nashville and when I returned home I found it on my local radio station. It has become a HABIT and a great one. The music and stories are so uplifting.

  • CathieHeenan

    Earlier this week I started to work out to get back in shape. I was getting a bit depressed on how I haven’t been able to do simple things like I could do a few years ago. It helps me feel better about myself, then I’m able to help and take care of my loved ones around me.

  • Lise Arseneau Lee

    Establishing a prayer life after years of being away from the Church. I have also recently made adoration a must when available at the church I attend. I find mornings are my best time for prayer, after the pets are fed.

  • Ann

    In my car changed from Radio to listening to the Rosary and Divine Mercy. I have noticed a small problems in life are not a big problem any more, that I thought was. Praying and listening to the rosary reminds me each morning that Nothing is my day will compare to the death of Jesus and his Mother Mary watching what he went through to save us from our sins. WOW

  • Barb Stuart

    Good morning,now that I am retired,I don’t need to rush in the morning as I used too,I stand at my front window with my coffee in hand and pray an Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be and Jesus Prayer for all that travel the roads. I say these prayers out loud..I listen to 1260AM only.And I say the rosary when I am traveling in the car.I am going to start the journaling when I go to Mass and getting into the bible more often.

  • Angie O’Mara

    I want to change my bad habits, so very much. Better Mass attendance, more frequent confession and to quit smoking and lose weight. I start each day with prayer and reflections, and try to live my life with kindness and mercy. Treat others the way, you wish to be treated.

  • Working on it now. Three weeks ago, my fasting blood sugar was 310. In those three weeks, I got a blood glucose meter, spent $180 on 110 test strips, changed my diet completely, went on metformin. This morning, after breakfast was 167.

  • Magalis Muniz

    Recently this past week, I started drinking more water in the morning. It has so far helped me with my digestion and I’m in a better mood. I’m not irritable during the day. It has made me more conscious of what I put in to my body. My goal is to develop better eating habits.

  • JayAW

    I strongly suggest that everyone read the book Outwitting The Devil by Napoleon Hill. It’s not a religious book but more of a self help book. Napoleon Hill, who wrote the self help classic Think and Grow Rich, wrote Outwitting the devil in the 1930s but it wasn’t published until about five years ago. In Outwitting The Devil, Hill “interviews” the evil one to learn about how he exploits people and gets them addicted to bad habits, like smoking, to the point where people automatically do these bad habits daily without even thinking about them. It’s a fascinating read and makes you look at your own bad habits that you didn’t really think controlled you. When reading the book, you begin wondering if these are negative behaviors that he observed in people or if he truly did interview the devil. Again, this book isn’t written from a religious perspective and some people may think that reading the book dabbles in sacrilegious actions, but the book made me realize just how much the devil does actually exploit us by tempting us into partaking in bad habits. Each one of us isn’t immune from falling to these temptations, but we don’t like to take a hard look at ourselves and admit that indeed we are guilty of taking the temptation bait, even in small things that we don’t see as significant. Do you really need that cigarette as soon as you wake up in the morning? Do you really need that stiff drink after a long day at work? Do you really need that piece of cake that’s been calling you all evening? Think about how much we are tempted every single day.

    • Pat

      Thx for info. Will get this and read it soon. It helps me a lot to know why I fall into bad habits. For some reason, knowing why leads me to knowledge of what I should pray for to overcome the current struggle.

      • JayAW

        Pat, yes, you are correct that knowing why you fall into bad habits is a major part of the solution. You don’t think about something that you do as a bad habit until it’s pointed out to you. The book is written in a way that the devil is commanded to reveal how he tempts people, even though he doesn’t want to reveal his secrets. I’m warning you though that it can get uncomfortable to read at times, mainly because you’re being given a look at how you easily can be tempted, as strong as you might be in your faith. But wow, you really recognize your own faults when you read this book and you start tracing your bad habits and behaviors all the way back to your childhood. My dad was pretty religious but he smoked heavily and was an alcoholic. These are just a couple of ways that he was locked into the bad habit grip.

        • Pat

          Think I follow you. I had a most difficult time reading the Screwtape Letters. Think most of our behavior comes from our childhood and the inadequacy we are dealt, no matter how good or bad our parents were. I suppose that is why Jesus came as a baby into a family situation. He surely could have done otherwise.

          BTW, my papa was an alcoholic and smoked heavily also. Found Al Anon later in my life and can say, I think God sent it to save my life.

  • Joyce

    Dynamic Catholic, Best Lent Ever has changed my life for the better. I’ve started to read the Bible and trying eve the version myself. Thanks

  • Mike

    Working on creating a new habit of going to confession a regular basis. After years of being away from the sacrament I went to confession two weeks ago. I feel like it’s already had a significant impact on my life. I am literally pulling into my calendar schedule time to go to confession in the future. My goal is to start with monthly confession and see how that goes. Say a prayer for me and everyone else who is trying to create a new positive have in their life and I will do the same.

  • As a fan of planning, I make certain things a priority before my kids wake and morning madness begins. Knowing that I accomplished even 2 things (prayer/exercise) leads to a successful day!

    Goal setting is key.

    I heard Terri savelle foy a Christian motivational speaker once said. ” Don’t look at the time you wasted, look at the time you have left.”

    When you fall, get right back up. Imagine Jesus grabbing your hand when you do. Don’t. Give. Up. Never. Ever. Give. Up!

    Take all the suffering and Unite it with Christs Cross and offer it up for The Holy Souls, conversion of sinners and reparation of your sins.

    Don’t let suffering go unwasted. Offer it up. ESPECIALLY for the Holy Souls. I have a huge devotion to them.

    Keep telling yourself “Our habits change when we change.”

    I’m planting these seeds to my young ones now. The. Work. Is. Done. Now.


  • Tony Pantera

    Volunteering, as a habit, not a once in awhile event, makes me feel more connected to everyone in
    ways that I hadn’t imagined before.

  • Ginie

    A few years ago my blood pressure was climbing, my sugar levels were climbing and my cholesterol was still way too high as was my weight. I’m still struggling with the eating right but I try to walk 12,000 steps a day-I’m successful most days, I drink 10 plus glasses of water daily and I just recently tried adding 1-2 days of additional exercise. Results my sugar levels are leveled out, my BP is leveled out my good cholesterol is higher and the bad lower….now to just eat less…..

  • Emma Smith

    I knew that my prayer life was not hugely strong. I’d say my morning
    offering before I get out of bed, but overall I wasn’t really praying
    much during the day short of saying grace before meals and the st.
    michael before school. My new year’s resolution was to strengthen my
    prayer life, so I started by praying the angelus at 12 noon monday
    through friday. for lent, i’ve been praying the litany of humility every
    day. both have changed my life immensely. the angelus allows me to take
    one minute of my day and offer it to Our Lady and to just take a
    breath. The litany of humility has really made me realize that it’s not
    about what others think, but what God thinks. Thanks, Matthew Kelly! 🙂

  • Maureen

    I have the bad habit of eating sweets after dinner while watching tv. I say I’ll just have a small whatever but then get the taste of sugar in my mouth and can’t get enough. I gave up sweets for lent and am doing fine but am already planning all the sweets I’ll enjoy when lent is done. Any suggestions for drowning out this habit? I can already hear the resistance part of my brain saying things like you only live once so indulge, or life’s too short to give up its pleasures. I spend the night hearing those sweets calling me! Help!

    • Karen Kitchel

      Try making it a habit to reward yourself every Sunday with a treat. Will give you something to look forward to all the other days of the week and when temptation arises, offer it up as a prayer and remind yourself how you’ve established a new good habit.

      • Maureen

        Thank you! I like putting prayer in place of sweets!

  • Jacob

    What I began working on, working out for, stop biting my nail, and being grateful. I think being grateful, is like being grateful for other. If I see someone eating alone. I will sit with them and eat with them or if they are alone at a movie and all by their self. While a group crowd is all together and the solo is sitting by itself. I will stop biting my nail because it a bad way for my appearance. I want it to be a good thing for me to stop.

    • LosmanPO

      Jacob, If you find something that helps you stop biting your nails, please let me know. People used to tell me it was a nervous habit, but I find that I do it almost unconsciously. I have prayed about it because it is something that I want to change. I just can’t seem to figure out what good habits could crowd this out of my subconscious. This one will likely require God’s hand because nothing I have tried works.

      • Jacob

        I been rubbing something I dislike. Such as jalapeños juice or any hot pepper juice. Try nail polish remover, rubbing alcohol. I hope that help. Thank your for commenting on my post.

  • Kathiehc

    Making beds & changing stations!👏👏👏👏
    Thank you All for helping me learn (once again) that many simple steps, chosen wisely, can lead me to where I want to go, the open arms of Our Lord!

  • Clara Turci Depko

    Daily mass at home followed by the gym when my health allows me is a habit I really like. Here no gym it is walking to church when I can and exercising at home when health allows. But I is dealing with the stress that I really need to let go of and perhaps the fact that I have not been able to be active keeps the stress close to me.

  • Tricia

    Nice haircut Matthew😊

  • Cheryl Stanton

    I am a compulsive overrated. On May 14, 2016, I joined Overeaters anonymous. Through the 12 steps based on Alcoholics Anonymous I’ve lost 30 pounds. This is more a spiritual program, not a diet program. Just like the video said, when you focus on something( God, Higher Power) the bad habits slip away. I am very grateful to have God Who could and did turn my life to sanity.

  • Laura LaDue

    I was sitting in the pew at church one Sunday and noticed a paper. I pulled it out and read it. It was the 12 prayers of St. Bridget. I decided to look it up online later. I printed it out and decided to start praying it every morning. I started that in August of last year and it has become a daily habit now. I find that since then I am more relaxed and can handle stress a lot better.

  • Eduardo Hoover

    Ralph Waldo Emerson authored, “Sow a thought reap an action; sow an action reap a habit; sow a habit reap character; sow character and reap a destiny;” take note, a thought could either be good or bad. Bad habits are like invasive weeds in a garden where you try to plant good habits with a generous broadcast but the weeds eventually choke out the crop. You try chopping them but the roots go to deep and seem impervious to any poison as they are themselves a poison. The only way is to manage the bad habit by going to regular weekly confession and increase the good habits fertilizing them by going to Mass as often as possible. # Persevere

  • Velma Johnson

    About seven months ago I created the habit of my family praying together every morning before leaving for school and work. This habit has helped us to grow spiritually and helped us to feel comfortable praying aloud and in groups.

  • Ellen Fahey

    Every morning on the way to work, I pray a Rosary. I’ve been doing this for about 5 years now. I feel ready for the day, strengthened! However, when the weekend rolls around, and my routine changes, I miss praying my Rosary. Sometimes I squeeze it in later in the day, and sometimes I don’t. Either way, I feel off. Commitment to this habit of praying a Rosary is important to me. But, I think it’s also become very convenient as well. I have a 25 minute ride to work. Perfect timing for my prayers. Plus, I’m alone and quiet. On the weekend, all of that changes. This reflection today on ‘habits’ has made me realize that if praying a Rosary is so important to my daily living, then I need to make the time to pray it on the weekend, too. Form the habit. I guess I’ve never really committed myself to doing that. I know one thing, though. When I’ve missed my rosary in the morning on a Saturday or Sunday, and I take time to pray it in the afternoon or evening, I feel as though my day is complete.

  • Donna

    My husband has dementia. In the early day of his illness I knew I would need help and only help that always is there is our Lord! So I started adding more prayer and small bits of inspiration (like best lent ever) to my day. I found the more I pray and read the words of spiritual encouragement the better caregiver I become! I get up early for “me time” and the first thing I do is pray a rosary!

    • LosmanPO

      Donna, I will pray for you and your husband. I know this must be a very difficult time for you and your family. God never gives us anything that through His strength we cannot endure. Be strong. May God guide you and give you the strength to navigate this with faith, love, hope and compassion!

  • JS

    Yes! It really is about habit building.. fighting against our own weakness, and pushing ourselves to live in good habits that bring us closer to God. For me, not getting out of bed without saying my morning offering really helps set a tone for me day. My husband, gets up really early to do prayers in the silence of the morning to start his day.. Teaching our kids to always say grace, no matter what, and to never go to bed without prayer!

  • Paula Stevenson

    12 years ago, I was introduced to personal growth. At that time, my relationship at home was ” fine” I had stopped going to mass. Was playing the blame game when any argument or disfunction arose. My first learned the hard way lesson was edifying others. Especially my husband. Eventually things in our parish also changed. I felt I could go back to mass. The 2 things together have changed me forever. But the habit of listening or reading something positive 10 mins a day. Quiet time for prayer first thing in the morning took a while to commit to.



  • TerriB

    I joined first 5 a few months ago, before Lent. It’s premise is to give God the first 5 minutes of your day. We are currently studying the book of Samuel and each day has a scripture passage and a daily lesson with it. It has truly given me a deeper understanding of the Old Testament. So far, we’ve studied the book of Joshua and Judges. It has made listening to mass readings come much more alive. I’m thankful for this ministry of Christian women. I found the best time to do this while my toddler is eating bkft, I’m sipping warm coffee and feeding the baby. 😊

  • Mike

    For some years when Easter arrives I have been asking myself ‘ What have I done or failed to do that has made a difference in my life? ‘ ….So this Lenten season I decided to break a bad habit by discontinuing watching TV . I have been accustomed to getting my daily news fix while getting ready to go to work. Now I experience Silence and the ability to create my own thoughts without distraction and can sense the presence of God and am more aware of my spiritual life. Regarding habits…. I am reminded of something that was told to me once. ‘ Practice does not make perfect… Practice makes permanent! ‘

  • Kathy

    I have a bad habit of putting things off but I always have a valid reason!!! I need to take my car for the yearly inspection and I’ve cancelled twice already. I decided last Sunday that if there are things I can add so I don’t put things off maybe I could break this habit. Its Friday so I’ll pick up my 4 year old grandson to spend the night and Saturday till late afternoon. I scheduled my car at 10 in the morning and since there’s a Wal-Mart right there we could leave the car and walk over to Wal-Mart to have some fun. I think God was a huge part of that plan because I have yet to cancel it. I’m really going to work on this and I need God’s grace to help me

  • Trudy Ray Parmarter

    When I am doing something repetitive and thus boring for me (like deleting unnecessary emails or repetitive exercise movements) I will say “Praise the Lord” or “Thank you God” as I do each repetitive action.

  • Lynne

    I love starting my day with these daily reflections & my Thirsting for God daily meditations. It has made some positive changes for me.

  • r j

    Three or four years ago I was thrust into a very stressful situation at work which continued until my 2016 retirement. I began reading the daily mass readings and praying a noon time Our Father. The Lord aided me in a way that I cannot articulate.

  • Mary Anne Miller

    During my work life, I ate whatever I wanted, and left physical challenges to my husband and three sons. When I retired at 55, I realized that if I continued this pattern, I was only hurting myself. So I began to eat healthier. Even though the people around me were less than supportive, I found that I actually liked some things I began eating. I also joined an exercise class that suited me as well. Now 13 years later I feel better about myself and have more energy and stamina than ever. It is never too late to start better habits! I hope to extend my prayer life now, and this Lenten challenge has been a blessing.

  • Barbara

    My worst habit is staying up way too late . I know I need to get more sleep and I’ve made up my mind to change this bd habit. I know I will feel better, be more alert, accomplish more in a day and will develop a more positive attitude. If I start the day with Mass I’m off to a great start,

  • Camille Stebbins

    For me, Lent has been a great time to start new habits, and I didn’t even realize at the time that’s what they would become. Changing can feel daunting, at least for me, (it’s that resistance piece), but making a change for Lent seems achievable because it’s a fixed amount of time. But something really special happens during Lent and a lot of the activities can become habitual. A few years ago, I decided to add one daily mass a week to my Lenten activities. Once Lent was over, I realized that I didn’t want to stop going. I missed it when I stopped when Lent was over. So I continued. The next Lent, I added another daily mass and same outcome. Today, after many years, I attend the early daily mass three times a week (one year, I sacrificed sleep for Lent and started going to the 6:30 am mass and it stuck), pray in the adoration chapel prior to mass, say a daily rosary and other prayers, all of which started as Lenten activities. To say that these habits have changed my life is an understatement.

  • Gary Scott

    Dynamic Catholic has helped me increase my prayer life, reading scripture, and I am having the BEST LENT ever. In June of 2016 my wife and I were at Holy Redeemer Catholic Church in Kitty Hawk, NC. We were the only family members who got up to attend Mass. Holy Redeemer is a large church that serves the vacationers visiting the Outer Banks. At the end of Mass Father said they had a free book that anyone could pick up as they were leaving. My wife and I went to the rest rooms and let the crowd slim down to only a few people. We decided to see if there were any copies of the book left. There were three copies left so we took them and left a donation. That book was Rediscover Jesus by Matthew Kelly (no intro needed) I gave two copies to my sons and kept the other copy. I never finished the book until Advent 2016. The book has changed my life. I ordered 45 copies for our parish and gave the book out for free. We are currently facilitating a Lenten class of about 20 regulars using Rediscover Jesus. I will be taking 45 more in Spanish to be given out after the Spanish Mass. May 21st I will be attending the Passion and Purpose event in Monroeville PA to hear Matthew in person. Increase your prayer life, read the Gospels, proclaim the name Jesus. Say his name to yourself from time to time throughout the day. Hang a crucifix on your car mirror. Be Bold Be Catholic and Jesus will ride with you.

  • Kathy

    Kenny, thank you so much for sharing your story. What you have done takes an incredible amount of faith, courage, strength and perseverance. God is so good! Our son-in-law is 2+ years sober, and we couldn’t be more proud of the man he is, for all that he has done and accomplished to get to this point. He and our daughter were dating at the time, when she shared with us what he had been dealing with for several years in terms of his alcoholism. They also had been discussing marriage. Initially I was fearful for her and her future, and began to judge. But upon my husband showing this to me, and then seeing how our daughter stood by him in every way, and also became involved in the treatment program he sought for himself, my faith received a huge boost! They are married now and have a beautiful baby boy. We continue to pray for our son-in-law and their marriage, while giving thanks to God for His work in his life and in their marriage. I pray too that they may also be brought back into the Church. Hearing your testimony gives me much hope. Thank you, Kenny!

  • Wilfred Gienger

    Gratz Kenny. Also like others here I have been listening to EWTN. The thing that has helped me most is daily rosary, even when I don’t want to, or feel like it.

  • Kathleen Cranford Kelley

    My new habit is starting my day listening to the Dynamic Catholic video. I think at first I saw it as a “task” for Lent. Now I wait up each morning and look 👀 forward to each tape and see it as a blessing and gift to me. Thank you!
    (Ps The emoji was added to
    emphasize my excitement in “looking” for ways to be closer to God!)

  • Julie Mendenhall

    I have started going to bed earlier. Stopped watching TV in bed, which makes me stay awake, started reading my Bible study materials instead. I get more sleep and am in better shape to start my day. I listen to EWTN Radio on the way to work as well. I’m disabled, and it can be easy to give up, so forming better habits has been a God send.

  • Jennifer Haeussler Brewer

    I cannot remember the last intentional habit I decided to change… Guess its time to think of one.
    I am trying to finish my PhD and have been focused on that. I have but everything else on hold. I would like to start living my life to the fullest again.

  • Jennifer

    Wow…this caused me to stop and think about habits in general. Bad habits came to mind immediately, but I struggled to name some good ones. Would never have thought to name bed-making as a good habit, but it certainly is. If you have never seen it, search YouTube for the “Navy Admiral make your bed Commencement Speech” from 2014. 1 min and 14 seconds, that ties into Matthew Kelly’s slaying resistance video. (still working on not hitting the snooze button every day…) One small task, done well, at the start of your day, really sets the tone, not to mention that just being able to get out of bed ever day is a blessing in itself!

  • Glenn Shimer

    Yes make your bed. A huge first good effortless habit. Establish a sense of order and then you return to it at the end of the day.

  • Olivia

    I have a few hurdles in life, a couple of them being bipolar disorder and anxiety. My mood is affected highly by negative news stories, ill words, and the heavy political issues that make for heated arguments. I was having a hard time staying focused on God while taking care of my three little daughters. In order to start getting rid of negativity in my life, I made the choice to drop out of social media! It took some adjusting, but boy, has it impacted my life greatly! I realized what a time waster it was-I could replace the habit of mindless scrolling with prayer! Now that I’m not looking down at my phone very much, I see the world in a brighter light. I see the gifts God gives us daily! Ive decided to live in each moment in a world of constant distraction. My life has changed significantly since I put my phone down and have dropped other bad habits with great ease. I feel The Holy Spirit growing stronger within me! It’s beautiful.

    • JoAnn

      Olivia, you made a decision for Love. God bless you every day in your daily journey. JoAnn

    • LosmanPO

      Great job Olivia. I feel the same way. Going through the storms of my life recently, I found myself reaching out to others for validation via social media. I started to recognize that this was an unhealthy habit because I would feel down when I didn’t receive the feedback I desired. For me, it was less about the negativity and more about how this non-personal interaction could have the power to impact my emotions. I am learning to be present to those who are in my life and to focus on God more and more every day.

  • Sue

    In August, 2016 I attended A CHRP (Christ Renews His Parish) Retreat. I then went through formation to be a team member on the next CHRP retreat. I learned to pray and read Scripture every day. I had done so years ago, but since my husband retired meeting his needs has come first. It became difficult to find quiet time and I eventually lost the habit.
    CHRP formation made me realize what was missing in my life and feeding my anxiety, it was the lack of deeper connection with God.
    Now I don’t have a scheduled ritual, but I find the time in my day to pray, read the daily readings and reflect. It has helped me replace anxiety with trust often in my life.

  • Susie Caughey

    When I was in between jobs last summer, I decided I needed to cut costs. The 1st bill I realized was super-high was my home phone/cable tv/internet bundle. I ditched both my home phone and tv, primarily to save $ but with the intention of reinstalling the tv option at a later date. That was last July. I loved the I.D. Channel LOL! Anyhow, I realized I enjoy much better reading spiritual books in my free time. My tv still hides behind the doors of my armoire. I did not set out intentionally to create that life changing habit but I decided intentionally to stick with my choice. Reading spiritual books is a way better habit.

  • Ruth

    I recently started the habit of sending out thank you notes after attending parties, visiting friends, and receiving gifts. Since starting the habit I began to notice all the things that people did for me in my life so much more than I had before. I realized that I was blessed in many ways and I loved passing that thankfulness along.

    • Mary

      Too bad we stopped doing things like that. Good for you, what a very thoughtful action!

    • K. D.

      I love that! It’s a great way to say thank you to others but more importantly to help you build a stronger spirit of gratefulness in your life! thanks for sharing this!

  • Mary

    I met Matthew Kelly many years ago, he was 29. 10 minutes in the classroom of silence and writing down the message I received during Mass have been two habits that have changed my life. Recently I added daily Mass. I am moving 4/1 into an apartment and will not have TV. That will be a big adjustment but as I have been reading some of your posts it won’t be the worst thing.

  • RustyJ

    After being sedentary for nearly two years after a major surgery (being sedentary was my choice), at the end of this January I committed to a Starting Strength program on Monday, Wed and Friday evenings. I get to do it with my son which is a bonus. I am lifting heavier weights week after week, getting stronger and stronger. It is a committment of just 3 days a week and it is effective. I can be lazy on alternate days if I want, but I am finding that my energy levels are increasing day by day and I want to be more active in general. This, I hope will become a life-long habit. I believe in it so strongly, I have started converting my garage into a gym where my friends, son and his friends can also work out.

  • Tina Xinastle

    I am currently forming a habit of prayer upon waking. I had the habit when I was growing up, but lost it. The best way is to offer your whole day as a prayer to God. I tried in the past but resistance and excuses always got in the way. I am determined to keep it going strong from now on. I am so grateful for all the inspirations I am receiving this Lent. Keep the Faith!! Love to all who read this ❤

  • Scott Sowers

    A lot of people know the Serenity Prayer, well, the first two stanzas. Very few know the entire prayer. When I’m faced with challenges, good or bad, in my life, I say this prayer to help me find the answers to the question or situation at hand. I hope this helps anyone that might need it. It will help define your habits. The Serenity Prayer

    The full text of the original “Serenity Prayer” written by Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

    GOD, grant me the serenity
    to accept the things
    I cannot change,

    Courage to change the
    things I can, and the
    wisdom to know the difference.

    Living one day at a time;
    Enjoying one moment at a time;
    Accepting hardship as the
    pathway to peace.

    Taking, as He did, this
    sinful world as it is,
    not as I would have it.

    Trusting that He will make
    all things right if I
    surrender to His Will;

    That I may be reasonably happy
    in this life, and supremely
    happy with Him forever in
    the next.


    • Tina Xinastle

      Thank you for sharing this prayer, Scott

      • Scott Sowers

        You are welcome.Pass it on. It has helped me through so many times in my life. Blessings.

    • Stacy West Taylor

      I learned the Serenity Prayer as a teenager attending Alanon. My father was an alcoholic and when he attended AA meetings, then I would attend the Alanon group. We only said the first two. Now, as an adult, I struggle with my own addictive nature. I started attending Celebrate Recovery which is a Christ centered 12 step program very similar to AA. They encourage us to learn the entire prayer. I thank you for sharing it here!

      • Scott Sowers

        Good luck and God bless. If I can do it, so can you. I just wish I’d have done it 30 years ago. Blessings.

  • Paul

    A couple of years ago I decided I needed to lose weight. I proceeded to change daily habits from negative to positive to achieve my goal. I am a school bus driver and it can become monotonous if you let it. The students shuffle on and off with no eye contact or exchanges. I recently started greeting each student as they got on and also when they got off. Eventually I started to get some replies. But when you finally get a smile and greeting from the ones you never expected, it is rewarding. I recently tried to say a short prayer for each student that I pick up . I hope by trying to keep a positive mindset as I work, it can help improve my patience and friendliness with others.

  • Clair Sirofchuck

    After reading a book about the Holy Spirit, (“The Helper,” by Catherine Marshall), I started taking time to talk quietly to God when I was doing household chores, or waiting in line or taking a walk somewhere. Soon, this helped me grow much closer to God. Any worries, questions, confusion or thankfulness I could bring before him and ask for His help and guidance, and leave them in his hands. I also noticed how it affected my day—if it wasn’t going well, it helped me to turn it around, and if it was a wonderful day, then I would thank God. This helped me to realize God’s presence in every moment of my day. This is a habit that I feel really had a powerful impact on my life.

  • Rosie

    Actually, my latest habit was to lose weight and modify my eating habits which has been a good change and quite effective. However, I visualize a life-changing habit being about changing spiritual habits. I pray daily but do not set the ten minutes aside, I just try to constantly thank, petition and praise God throughout the day however, I do need to set a new goal to set the time aside. Previously, I was told it takes 7 days to make or break a habit, but as we all know, it takes much more whether it is breaking an old habit or creating a new one. So, I am working on my prayer life and will continue to work on my physical issues as well. Thank you Jesus for giving me the courage to be strong and persevere.

  • Barbara Churray

    Listening and engaging with Best Lent Ever has prompted me to return to a daily habit of Centering Prayer. In these past three weeks, I’ve noticed I’ve become more peaceful and aware of Christ’s presence in my life. Asking Him to keep me committed this time. In the past, after Centering for some period of time, I feel better and think I can skip a day or two which leads me to falling off the wagon. I must rely on Him, not my own understanding. Thanks for holding me accountable by reading and posting your own comments.

  • Charlotte

    Anytime i sit in my car i pray the Rosary, if it is a long drive i add the Divine Mercy and the Chaplet of the Precious Blood of Jesus. If it is a very short drive, then i listen to christian music. Our Priest (wonderful man) got the whole church to read the Bible, one chapter a day, so every morning he writes a short story about the chapter and in the evening we ask questions, he answers every question and suggestions. We started almost two years ago with the book of Genesis and as of today we are on Isaiah 40. When we finish the Book, we all meet and have a review of the Book. One may wonder how we do it, We setup a church Whatsupp page for it.

  • Paula Hecker

    I can’t help but be encouraged by your testimony Kenny! Thank you for sharing! A habit that I began to do regularly this year is to read the Bible every day, even if it is only a sentence! Wow what a difference it made for me. I just pray a little prayer and ask God to speak to me through His living word. I am often down right amazed at how pertinent to the circumstances of my life His word addresses the issues I am facing at the time. It has built confidence in my faith in God, even when admittedly there are times that I just don’t get it! I don’t understand what God is saying to me, but then something happens, and what I read makes perfect sense! I hope this encourages others to form this habit too!

  • Rita Gahr

    Keep up the good work Kenny and Phil. Prayer on a daily basis has gotten me through many tough times. I have been turning the TV off and taking the time to pray every morning this lent. I am starting to look forward to this quiet time every morning. I have also added exercise to my life this Lent. Now if only I can correct my bad eating habits. I saw a nutrionist for the first time this week to start working on it. Hopefully my prayers will keep me on course.

  • Kevin Duggan

    One habit I picked up during the last year is to pray the Rosary while driving. You don’t need to finish it all the time. I’m sure Jesus won’t care if I don’t finish it. I am praying. But it has helped me to calm down and not be so upset with other drivers. I still have a way to go to get better but I’m getting there slowly. And I’m being more courteous to my fellow commuters now too. I don’t always speed up and not let someone in now. I’m more willing to let them in my lane in front of me! It’s helping.

  • LJ

    There is no perfection here and time is wasted daily on negative stuff. I need you to pray for me so that I may become one among many and to establish genuine friendships. 1st with God and then others, based on common interests.

    • Jennifer

      Prayer sent up.

    • LosmanPO

      LJ, I will pray for you and for me. I have this need in my life too. I have lost the love of my life and life long friends recently due to being abandoned and betrayed after 27 years of marriage. It has reminded me that human love often times comes at a cost. Only God’s love is unconditional. Our greatest desire is to love and to be loved. I trust in God that he will work these genuine, loving and supporting friendships into both our lives. God bless!

      • Mog


  • Teresa

    14 months ago I started a kickboxing class and decided to make that a habit. It’s not easy to make myself get out of bed to attend but I’ve never walked away from the class regretting that I went! Quite the opposite. I feel energized and stronger, awake and more motivated for the rest of the day. I’m laying in bed now with resistance trying to keep me from this mornings class!!

  • Ruth Doxsee

    Yes, order to the day. I resist by procrastinating everything: chores and fun things. Kudos to all the folks who have overcome addictions and illnesses by taking the steps to change. I’m trying hard to pray the rosary everyday, but find it difficult to set aside the same time every day. Usually I say it before bed. A blessed day to all.

  • Kathleen Spector

    I set out to quit smoking and partnered with a friend. We talked each evening about what it was like that day: when did I really want a cigarette? What did I do instead? I learned I smoked when I was ‘bored’ …Based on my reflections, I planned my day so that there were fewer idle moments throughout the day. With God’s grace, we are both non-smokers.
    Matthew’s point of replacing bad habits with good, effective habits is a good one! If we move toward what we think about (whether it be good for us or not) thinking good thoughts and developing actions of goodness are key to becoming a best version of myself and disciple of Christ.

    • Jennifer

      Great job, it’s not easy!

  • Annette Watson

    watching the best lent ever videos every day.

  • Glen Arcalas

    Sleep is a good habit to invest in. Limiting personal time on electronic devices and invest more on time with family and friends. Add at least an hour a day for self to be myself.

  • Elaine

    I have taken steps to volunteer time at my local hospital, but due to my husband being treated for cancer and needing my assistance I have put it on hold. He keeps reminding me of my commitment and I have assured him I will be volunteering soon. I have volunteered in the past and know it brings a sense of purpose outside ones self. I look forward to my husband’s recovery and volunteering.

  • Marylee Berro

    Several years ago a friend suggested I take the K-Love challenge by listening to only the christian music radio station for 30 days. I took the challenge and am grateful I did! Now, I rarely listen to other radio stations. The songs and reflections and encouragement to always pray are uplifting and keep me focused on God.

  • Rosy Sarrazine Stein

    I pray the Divine Mercy Chaplet on my way to work using podcast from Laudate app. I also listen to Catholic radio or Christian music.

  • Margo Hay

    Congrats to both Kenny and Phil. I have 37 years and that one habit change I made almost 38 years ago has lead to a trickle-down effect of many others😁. And I’m still working on it! AA has given me the freedom of choice which I had lost in the alcoholic haze that had become my life. Freedom to open many doors; freedom to choose to walk through them if they positively helped me and freedom to choose to reclose them if they did not. Life is beautiful today as I walk closely with God and try to discern the next right thing. Thank you Matthew Kelly for helping to make this Lent more meaningful and more growth filled for me💜.

  • helena handbasket

    When I learned how the Founding Fathers said everything you needed to know could be found in the Bible, I was motivated to read it, cover to cover. I bought the “Bible In One Year” Companion book and began on January 1 a few years ago. I managed to get through it and to re-read it the following year since everyone says you always “miss something,” no matter how many times you read it.

    Bolstered by that, when an evangelical friend gave me a copy of “Jesus Calling,” I began reading a devotional every day, first thing in the morning. While everyone else was getting ready upstairs, I’d go downstairs, get my coffee and read that book. After completing a year of it, I still read it and have added “Spectacle of Glory,” another OUTSTANDING devotional with short, but memorable meditations.

    If I want to get anything done, I have to do it in the morning. Our parish priest challenged us to make a habit of praying the rosary daily. If you don’t have time for the whole rosary, pray just a decade a day, he said. “It will change your life,” he said. So, I adopted the “decade a day” Mon-Fri and say four rosaries a month without really trying.

    When I learned about the Divine Mercy devotion/promises, I decided to pray it daily for the country. That has been a couple years now. Intrigued by rosary devotionals, I start looking for new ones when my mind begins to wander during the familiar ones. I found the Chaplet of the Divine Wounds and its promises for praying for the poor souls in purgatory. I say this one for a person who has “quit” the church. With this chaplet, I’m working for him to find God again.

    Sorry for the long screed. I just wanted it to be a testament to the power of habit and how one good habit can lead to others!

    P.S. The iPad app, “Laudate” is outstanding for prayers, chaplets and the Stations of the Cross. I find lots of good stuff there.

    • Lisa


  • Lisa

    My biggest diet downfall is snacks at night so I got an easy puzzle book that I could do while watching tv. The other day I realized I no longer had the impulse to snack at night.

  • LosmanPO

    Matthew Kelly has identified four areas in our lives that benefit from establishing good habits and help us to become the best version of ourselves. These areas are physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. I have found a lot of truth in this. When our physical life is not going well, we often hear that we need to undergo a life-style change. I see this being true for each of these 4 areas. While we may set ourselves up for failure by attempting to incorporate multiple new habits all at once, I have found that we have the capacity to continuously build on each new habit. Mary’s video confirms what I have experienced, that one change in one area can lead to positive changes in all of the other areas. I started with the physical and spiritual and noticed that the other two areas presented themselves for change too. By regulating my sleep, eating better, exercising regularly, praying daily and reading scripture daily, my whole outlook on life has changed, and I know that I am a better version of myself than I was.

  • christol murch

    I am working on mind control especially when it comes to selfish, inconsiderate drivers.
    I have begun to say to myself out loud, “This will be over in les than a minute. Jesus, help
    me to think of something else.” It is sooooooooooooo difficult. Thinking of something else does
    the trick.

  • Leah Levitt

    Although I struggle with it mine was to regularly exercise and eat well. I became a vegetarian quite a few years ago and it has been realities easy to keep veggie. However I have a sweet tooth and this has not been so easy. I do pretty well with exercise. One of the things I did was to get two dogs. Dogs need to be walked. Hence I am forced to walk them. I need all the help I can get in exercising. I also find that God has made a beautiful world out there for me. If I can walk someone beautiful I enjoy it and do it.

  • christol murch

    I used to smoke, a habit that I formed as a young teenager. Back in the day, it was glamorous and my dad was
    a chain smoker. Cessation was quite difficult, but I have not smoked for many years. What did I do instead? I stayed busy.

  • MaryAnne Casaul

    A few years ago I went to a women’s conference with a group of friends. After that conference I began making it a habit to take time everyday to spend time with God, reading His word, praying and just spending quiet time. It has become a habit that has helped me through so many things. It no longer is a habit! It is a necessity.

  • Carolina Morales

    Day 21

    Dear #BestLentEver Diary,



    I struggle with emotional eating…like mega bad. And I OBSESS about it and worry about it SO MUCH in my day to day living. NO WONDER IT’S WINNING!! I’m not successful 1) bcs its always on my mind and 2) bcs I’m not crowding it out with other this that will enough action that will build me UP.

    Mary Burger. I love you. One of the things I’ve fallen prey to is excessive screen time once my little one goes to sleep at night (stadting around 8pm). It’s like my brain says, “RUN LIKE WIND!! YOU’RE FREEEEE” and so then I watch 10 recorded episodes of “Beat Bobby Flay” on the Food Network. Among 25 other shows I enjoy.

    I know I need sleep. My 3 year old wakes up at 6:30am and I go to sleep at 1am. THAT’S INSANE. I know it’s deconstructive behavior, yet there I am…EVERY SINGLE NIGHT thinking, “I’m Freeeeeee!!!!” When really I need to reassess my situation and nightly T.V. bingeing as well.

    Gosh today’s message and focus really hit the nail on the head for me. PERFECTLY.

    btw, I was slapped with a reality check when during my “Act” session and writing down 3 good habits, they were:
    1 brushing my teeth
    2 taking my thyroid medication
    3 preparing a healthy snack/lunch for my three year old

    Yea, stuff’s about to go down up in here…woot woot. Thank you Jesus….this was the ultimate radness. YES!

  • Gigi

    Kenny, Congradulation on all the changes in your life. With God anything is possible:) Your a great example for many struggling with similar problems. Thank you for sharing.

  • Sam Best

    This is really helpful. I have been struggling with thoughts that I would call an obsession. Instead of thinking about what I don’t want to think about, I need to get busy with other things and crowd those thoughts out. Thank you.

  • Therese

    Perfect timing for me. Bad habits, I am trying to fight one right now. Last year I gave up wine for lent, this year I’m going all out to give up alcohol. Doing well, these last few weeks, adding new habits like exercise to prepare for a 20 mile walk for hunger. I am actually seeing my weight drop in a healthy way. Better eating habits and exercise. I am also preparing to teach a yoga class to a greater than 60 year old population, so I will need to focus on class preparation and my teaching. I feel good, I am reading and saying my morning reflections and my focus has expanded to Thanking God and Jesus a lot during the day. I will keep going “One day at a time”

  • Evelyn Fuller

    I don’t seem to have good habits. My daily work schedule is not the same and so my day does not begin the same way everyday. I am also highly flexible, which is not such a good thing. Have bad habits though which I can never seem to overcome permanently. Creating good habits is tough.

  • Maria

    I think for me, I’ve had to rediscover how to do well in school each semester. At the beginning, I would still be in a somewhat relaxed mindset and trying to enjoy myself a little while also trying to tackle the tasks I need to get done for school. Near the middle I would realize that I’d need to REALLY cut to the chase on my studying and also cut out a lot of the less-important distractions I used to amuse myself with earlier. What I’ve learned from this repeating cycle is that for school, no matter how many classes I’m taking, I have to stay focused on it until the end. I know that some recreation is conducive to learning, but I’ve learned there’s a fine line between that and recreation that’s used for procrastination. I have to find a good balance between good rest from work and giving my best on my schoolwork, so that I can be the best student I can be.

  • Susan

    I started praying the Rosary daily several years ago. St. Padre Pio said “… bring me my weapon” — referring to the Rosary. Saying it allows time to ponder Jesus’s life, and the wonderful role model of our Blessed Mother. At first I thought it would take too much time, but saying it regularly changed my perspective of “time”. This past year I started attending Eucharistic Adoration every Friday afternoon for 1 hour. I like to be near Him and listen to what He has in mind for me. I now realize these were new habits I started, and they’ve given me peace of mind.

    • Trish Matta Melnick

      I agree. The Rosary brings peace. I started saying it during Lent many years ago. Then I thought I would stop. Instead I decided to do it on my way to work each day. Then the weekends came and the next thing I knew I wanted to make sure I said it each day. The days grew into years and I feel drawn to our Blessed Mother. I want to share a catholic APP for smartphones if you don’t already have it . It is LAUDATE. It’s free and has everything including the rosary on it. The daily readings keep me in rhythm with the mass each day and the reflections are excellent! It put so much more into my prayer life.

  • Kim Bordelon

    I don’t know you but I’m so excited and proud of you !!!!keep it up for another 10 years..

    • kimisu

      And beyond! 😊

  • Trevor Pelkey

    I think it was November of last year when I made a habit out of CONSISTENTLY getting eight hours of sleep every night from 10:00 p.m to 6:00 a.m. After a while, I began to feel more naturally energized, motivated, and happy! I found myself doing better in almost every aspect of my life. Unfortunately, this habit came to an end, but I plan on picking it back up again as I start with college this fall. I know that it will change my life for the better and help me live out God’s word.

  • While in Russia, I developed the habit of stopping in the cathedral to pray for at least a few minutes each day. It really made a difference in my day — in my mood, my feeling of connection to God, my ability to put up with nonsense. Now, in the US, I live far away from my church and can’t go in every day, but I think it’s time to look for a new habit…maybe volunteering? I’m not sure where I can volunteer where I’m currently living.

  • Pearl Brown

    Back in 2005 I needed to change something in my life so I started to go to daily Mass. I used to go 5 days a week now it has progressed over the time to 7 days a week. It is the best thing for me both spiritually and mentally. Thank you Jesus

  • Maureen Gomes

    I so enjoy Best Lent Ever,a habit i will continue each Lent reading the comments of others have also been so helpful

    i’m working on myself to rid my bad habits.i thank you Mathew & pray more people will join in & yes i passed it on as it was past too me God Bless All

  • Mark Darrow

    In 2015 my wife and I decided to get health. We changed our eating, drinking and exersize habits. 2+ years later we’re both healthier AND our relationship is happier.

  • Judy

    Each day I begin again with the best of intentions to create a life-changing habit…and thank goodness God is the God of Second Chances. Some days are better than others, yet each have the same desired goals: wait on hunger, sacrifice, and pray.

    When Matthew Kelly said, “…there are a lot of little good habits which are needed to crowd out the bad habits,” it resonated deep in my soul. I guess this is because my attempts at each day’s good habits are crowding out time focused on bad habits.

    When I get up tomorrow morning, I will once again commit myself to lead my life as best as I can by waiting on hunger, sacrificing, and praying. These lead me to becoming the best version of myself.

  • Faith

    Three years ago on Ash Wednesday I decided I would attend mass one additional day during the week. My usual is Wednesday’s but I work 2 afternoon shifts and have one weekday off, so I am always been able to keep this habit. Only missed during recovery from knee replacement. Love my weekly mass, also Stations of Cross during Lent

  • John

    When my wife’s health began to worsen (copd) I started praying the rosary daily for her. It has become such a part of my life that I always make time for it in the early morning before getting involved in daily obligations. This prayer time has really helped me cope as a caretaker for her and has helped me become more sensitive for the needs of other people in my life. I’ve been retired for a few years now so it may be easier for me to find time for a daily rosary, but I believe God will help anyone who prays daily even if it is a short prayer or conversation with Him. It really puts in perspective all the other noises and distractions in the secular world we live in today.

  • Helena Blackowicz

    Around 1980, my wife was a mess. I had just lost both my parents, we moved, I was seriously ill and then suicidal. My priest at that time guided me a,d gave me financjalbhelp. He told me to,pay thevrosary. He said I would get my prayers answered. From that moment on I have been saying the rosary daily. My stress level is way down a,d my finances are workable. God had blessed me tremendously.

  • Rae Mims

    I think the last time I set out a life-changing habit was to work out 5 days per week and get at least 150 minutes of exercise a week. It has been hard. Some weeks I make it and some weeks I don’t. But I find my stress and anxiety level are better when I do it. I haven’t lost a lot of weight – which wasn’t the goal anyway – but I have lost inches. This has made me want to try other types of exercise as well.

  • Ruth (Cole) Wegscheid

    Choosing to participate in this program is the last time I have set out intentionally to create a life-changing habit. Daily prayer has been a constant struggle for me. Resistance usually wins out. By following this course no matter what, even spending 3 days in the hospital, it has helped set the stage for continuing to improve on my goal for spending at least 10 minutes a day in prayer. From past experience I know that it is impossible to spend only 10 minutes–once there, it usually is 20 to 30 minutes. Thank you all for your comments.

    • Babciamel

      Thank you, Ruth, for your perspective. When the “Act” said to write down three bad habits and three good habits, I was at a loss. I certainly could think of more than three bad ones, but could not come up with one single good or positive habit. When I came across your comment, I was so relieved that I had one very positive habit that I embarked upon to change my life. It is the same answer as yours, I decided to participate in this program. Resistance is a killer and I am such an easy mark for it. Today, I am playing “catch up” having succumbed to resistance for four days in a row. I pray that I will be more vigilant in working this program every day, as it is meant to be done.

      • Ruth (Cole) Wegscheid

        I am so happy that I was able to help you with that. I, too, struggled to come up with three good ones, so was happy I had this one at least. One other good habit my husband and I have been doing for the past several years is attending Mass three days a week. It is definitely a habit now and we would not consider giving it up. We are fortunate to both be retired, so this is an easy habit for us. I am going to take Matthew Kelly’s challenge to attend Mass daily for an entire week also in the near future–goal to do it before Lent is over. May God Bless you and help us both to become the “Best Version of Ourselves” that God has in mind.

    • Shirley Mott

      Good for you Ruth. I love to read short Christian stories and take away a message of encouragement. Blessings

  • Suzanne Beurer Nader

    Saying the Serenity Prayer in the shower is a positive way to start my day. I also do a daily reading in a book called, “Mornings with Jesus.” This is my fifth year using that source which is published annually by Guideposts. The ideas and applications are current and still connected to Scripture, written by Christian women from different walks of life. Retirement has been a challenge for me. I worked in education for over forty years. I miss the children and I miss my colleagues. Now is my time to develop my artistic nature and be creative.

  • Debra Kyser

    It has been about 6 mon. now that I started to read the bible everyday. I would go through spurts before but was not consistent. I read the daily readings of the Mass while drinking coffee before I go to work and try to get to Mass once during the week.
    It has been so good for me to develop this habit along with saying a prayer before I get out of bed in the morning.

  • Donna R.

    What Matthew said about not focusing on the bad habits really struck a chord with me. Ever since I was a child, I’ve struggled with weight, trying one diet after another, failing, and regaining what I’d lost plus some. About three years ago, I heard someone say that the reason most diets fail is because we make certain foods “taboo” and that sets up cravings for the things we’re trying to avoid. So, I prayed and asked God to show me how to change so I could lose the weight. The answer was to focus on eating healthy foods, but to allow myself a treat if I really wanted it–just in a smaller portion. I also learned to listen to my body, and stop eating when I began to feel full; to increase water intake; and to start some stretching exercises and modified core workouts (all focusing on good habits instead of the bad ones). In the past two years, I’ve lost 70 lb., reversed Type 2 diabetes, decreased my pain levels from fibromyalgia and arthritis, and gained flexibility and stamina. I give all the thanks and praise to God, as He continues to lead me in my journey to a healthier lifestyle in spite of chronic illnesses. And I am grateful to this group for your inspiring comments and sharing your own struggles which gave me the courage to share mine.

    • Niove Candida Rosario

      You should be very proud of yourself and God is with you so continue to listen. God bless

      • Donna R.

        Thank you, Nancy, but God gets the full credit. On my own, I just kept failing; but when I finally put Him in charge, He led me to the right methods for success. I depend on Him daily.

    • Shirley Mott

      Donna, you are such a success story. Thx for sharing. Blessings

      • Donna R.

        Thank you, Shirley, and God bless you, too.

  • Naomi

    My bad habit is that I can’t stop from trying to force my son and grandson to forgive me and to allow me to talk and see them again

    • Shirley Mott

      Naomi-just pray about it and let it go. Let God take over. All He wants is for you to ASK. Blessings.

  • Paz Bingham

    Great habit “making the bed” it’s amazing the ramifications that come from it..My mother used to say when your house is in order your life is in order “…Keep making your bed and pass it on to your 13 year old fights me on it, but I have hope…And congrats on those who are living in sobriety now… I have 2 family members who I wish their habits would change and become sober..Your courage is amazing!! God Bless!

  • Niove Candida Rosario

    I can be a procrastinator sometimes where I let my aches and pains get the best of me and hold me from doing the things that will make me feel better like cleaning my house and exercising. I do win from time to time but I wish I could do it all the time. I let the negativity that comes with bodily aches run my days sometimes and I vegetate on the couch and waste a Saturday putting in my head that I need to rest since I work so hard during the week. I need to work on not wasting time.

  • Andy Hovey

    This is an aspect of my life I am currently struggling with. I’m by my character and nature, a very Type-A, perfectionistic person. I used to have a regimen of doing things as a single person: wake up at 5:00/5:30 AM, workout hard, come home, make a protein packed breakfast, go to work, come home, healthy meal, pray, go to bed and cycle all over again. Once I went back to graduate school to become a physical therapist, things got tougher to maintain, but I adapted well, over a couple months. But once I got married, then later had kids, my habits have been off track (almost 9 years). My drive to get up became no more, as my kids would wake up constantly each night, and my body said “enough” of getting 3-4 hrs then getting up at 5:30 or 6:00 because I was pretty brain-dead at work, slow to function in my head. Other things began to fall off, in terms of good habits, especially prayer life. Then, I changed jobs, planned on moving my family closer to my new job, but determined that where I was working was not very ethical, found out about a lot of turnover that was not disclosed during the interview process. I was extremely angry with myself that I made a bad decision, which then took me away from a great work environment, that I have not been able to replicate since. Not to dramaticize, but after that experience, my habits became bad, and my life changed and became a very unhappy person. I became a person I loathed, did not love, disliked. I lost the ability to be positive, not only for myself, but for my wife and children, whom I love dearly. Dark thoughts of self un-worthy-ness crept in. I still loved God, my faith, but I felt in my own self-view, I was not an example of sainthood or positive Christian life to others as I had before.

    This decision to participate in Best Lent Ever, has been the “habit” that is slowly bringing me back to being more grateful, happy, positive person. I am still struggling with pulling myself out of everything, but a more consistent prayer life has helped sustain me, helped me to be more patient with myself in the process. I had the courage to admit I had become “set in my ways,” not flexible or able to adapt easily to life when it threw me curve balls, and set out to work on changing that in a positive manner. It just doesn’t seem like it happens as fast as anyone wants or likes, which is a very small cross in the grand scheme of things, that I have to bear.

    The other habit I am trying to cultivate, is being able to love unconditionally. My wife is exceptional at this. Her life growing up as a child was not a positive one. But despite all of the things, she learned to see the best in people, forgive the faults and love anyway. I am eternally grateful for God bringing her into my life, and I am working on loving unconditionally, no matter the storms going on in, and around me.

    • Mary R

      Andy you are courageous and, I think quite wise. You have the courage to admit your mistakes and the wisdom to learn from them and move in a positive direction. As Kenny said we have to work for the lives we want. Keep up the good work!

  • Melissa

    Hi I to make my bed every morning I find it calming not only when I leave that day but when I come home. I also always straighten up my desk area at work and put away what I’m working on when I go to break, lunch and of course when I go home.

  • Kathleen

    Interesting Kenny mentioned the act of making the bed each morning. Until a few years ago it had been my habit every day from the time I was a young child capable of tackling this chore from my parents. Even if the rest of my day didn’t go so great at least I came home to an orderly bed. Then a few years ago my focused slipped due to pressures from my job. I let bad habits creep in… working late hours, losing sleep, sleeping later in the morning causing me to be in a hurry that I stopped making my bed. One bad habit after another formed creating anxiety and over time leading to health issues. Just months ago, I began re-organizing my thoughts and priorities and making the effort to focus on one habit one day at a time.

  • Sarena

    In 2015 I made small steps to take control of my weight. I started by excersise each day, then my meals changed. I lost the weight, became much more toned, felt stronger, healthier, and found that I craved healthy foods.

  • Aaron Huerta

    The seed to my biggest life changing habit was planted two years ago. I had always been one to not want to get out of my comfort zone for fear of failure. My mind was the biggest dream killer. I then found myself at 31 years of age, married with three children, without any direction or plan for the future. More so, I was at a point where I did not have a career goal. I was just working to exist. So I took a dive and re-connected with an old friend who was a successful entrepreneur in the insurance industry. I began taking classes to prepare for my examination. Until that point I had many failures in trying to start a new career. I always had poor SAT scores, failed out of college, failed a law enforcement entrance exam twice, failed a firefighter entrance exam, failed the medical entrance exam when trying to join the military. But the day came when I took my insurance licensing exam and I passed! One big habit was born that day which began drowning out all the bad habits. It has definitely been an ongoing battle still. But my launch into this industry has turned all parts of my life around. The biggest thing was the large focus on being the best version of ourselves. Never had I been around people where there was more positive feedback than negative. This experience has taught me to be much more organized. My wife and I have been making dramatic steps to be more organized in everything, and while we have a lot of resistance to battle still, we can see the changes happening. All glory to God for aligning me with the right people at the right time. Organization is a powerful habit to have that branches out into many sub-categories.

    • Shirley Mott

      Awesome for you Aaron.

  • Angela M. Williams

    I think all of us who are participating in Best Lent Ever intentionally set out to create a life-changing habit at the beginning of Lent. They say anything you do for 30 or more days becomes a habit. Stewardship has always been a very important and essential part of my faith journey. Since Lent began, I increased the number of my stewardship hours from 4 (sporadically) a month, to 35 hrs. in the month of March. I started a walking challenge with an organization I am a member with. The goal was to walk at least 10,000 steps a day. My number of steps still vascillates dramatically each day – BUT – I have been able to intentionally incorporate walking – and tracking the steps every day. When I walk – I have the Rosary on Spotify so I can listen and try to pray along as I walk. The challenge to that has been to remember my ear buds. But I have increased how often I pray the rosary as well this month.

  • Gene Honigford

    Working on changing one bad habit that has dogged me for many years.

  • Anna Brady

    I’ve tried in the past to get organized but have failed. About 5 months ago I came across something that caught my attention. It’s on a website called Living Well Spending Less. It was a mini course called Crushing It. There’s most likely similar programs but this one caught my attention and has held it. They offer a planner but I didn’t purchased it because I like to customize my planner. I set up my own planner, taking what I learned. It’s been wonderful. It’s changed my life a lot. I keep most everything I need in it. In the past I kept things separate. I even have a section called Brain Dump. Have a thought or idea, write it down there. No more forgetting or losing the slip of paper. I started keeping a list of items needed on my phone. I love it. NO more forgetting the list at home or simply can’t find it. By adding these few changes it’s helped with my bad habits. I’ve worked on keeping it up instead of focusing on what I needed to change (bad habits are being pushed out this way)

  • Nicole M.

    I set out intentionally to create a life-changing habit when Lent started. I knew I wanted to make this a Lent to remember and knew I needed to become more connected with God so I decided to sign up for Best Lent Ever. So far, I have only missed one day of watching a video and I’ll hopefully get back on track after this Sunday. I know change doesn’t happen over night, but I’m hoping that doing this daily devotion will help me to form some better habits over time.

  • Joan peconi

    I started biting the inside of my cheeks when I was in ninth grade, every day, because of the stress of entering the public schools. I continued this habit thru adulthood until only a year ago ( I am now 65). I tried everything to stop many times without success, nothing worked, not even the threat of cancer , wrinkles or the fact that it looked awful contortions my face while biting away. I asked God to take this urge away many times, then I just stopped doing it. It took a few days to realize this and am happy to say I don’t have any desire to start up again. Praise God.

  • Amy Reinhardt

    The last time I set out to intentionally create a life-changing habit was in mid-January when I bought a gym membership and started going 5-6 times a week. I made this choice because in my last semester of college, my sedentary lifestyle, increase alcohol consumption and poor dietary choices impacted my weight tremendously. I wasn’t feeling like myself anymore, and knew that I needed a change. Working out has made me feel stronger and better about my body. It’s nice to set goals and finally know that I can achieve them.

  • Emma Spaulding

    Ever since I did swimming in high school, I have rarely drank pop. Pop was a threat when it came to being better at swimming since it slowed you down, is not healthy for you, and is bad when you are trying to recover from a work out. I first gave up pop a few years ago for Lent, but then that just stayed with me throughout the swim season and today. Pop is horrible for your health and I even try to get my friends to stop drinking so much, and it only works some times.
    Another life-changing habit I have set is actually for Lent: I gave up Netflix. This might seem impossible for some people, but it has brought me to realize that I can do better things with my time like spend time with friends, study, and or take a walk. I do feel better about myself now since I am never in my room for hours just watching Netflix. I am socializing with people and showing the world who I am.

  • priscilla kubicki

    My husband (who has since passed away) always insisted on making the bed every morning and I have followed that tradition every day. I sleep on only one side of the bed and so it is so easy to make in the morning but it is always made. My dishes are always washed and the only habit I wish to improve upon are my daily prays. I do attend church 4 times a week but I have a hard time picking up that Bible and reading it or praying the rosary. That’s the habit I will be working on.

  • Michelle

    The last time that I intentionally set out to create a life-changing habit was a little more than a month ago, when I started to get serious about walking every day, and just moving more. I’ve started this habit several times, but this time the gift of a Fitbit is helping me to stay on track. I’ve always said daily nightly prayers, but I started reading “Resisting Happiness” every night since it was given to us as a gift from our parish this Christmas. I finished it and just as Lent began, I started re-reading “Rediscovering Jesus”, as well as the “Little Black Book”, and the Gospel of St. John every evening before prayers, just a chapter or small part in each. I hope to make both of these habits into lifetime habits. I have failed at doing this more than once, but I’m praying that this time it sticks longer than a few months.

  • Isabel Castro

    Congratulations on your 10th year of sobriety. May God continue to bless you and keep you on a righteous path. Let your example be a witness to others who are struggling with any type of addiction.

  • Joe

    Mary, I have no idea why but listening to your shot narrative today brought out a wave of emotion from inside me that I do not fully understand. I have some new health issues I am addressing and I have a prayer life but have had some dry moments of late in this area. For whatever reason your words following Matthew’s have deeply moved me. Thank you for taking time to share a thought…. I am on a quest to change some small habits and enforce a few good ones. Peace and Blessed Easter to you.

  • Josie

    My M0ther is 90. We have different views of life, This makes for stressful communication. My new habit is to call her everyday and just listen and reflect back for clarity…..try to understnd,,,,rather than argue, Hopefully this new habit will validate her and make me a better listner,

  • lizmvr

    About 4 years ago I joined a running team that raises money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I still don’t always run or walk as much as I feel I should, but I make it to many Saturday morning runs with the group. This does help me not only be healthier physically, but it also helps me find friends.

  • Debbie

    This is a great topic. I have a sugar addiction and trying to find those new habits to stop these bad ones. I’ve been praying the rosary on the way to work every day and that is new for me. But when I try to make it through the day without a sugar snack, I fail. I hope my praying more will help me break this habit. Thank you.

  • Lori Grajek

    Congrats to Kenny and Phil on your years of sobriety! I’m sure that was not easy at first. God bless!

  • Carrie

    Several years ago I realized I had a problem being on time. I blamed my mom because growing up I never learned the importance of being on time. But I decided to make a change with this because it was very irritating to my husband. I thought about why I was late and I realized that many times when I was getting ready I didn’t know what time it was because I was in the bathroom doing my hair and make up and there was no clock in there. So I bought a clock for the bathroom. This almost completely solved the problem!

  • Lori Grajek

    One thing different I did today when having my morning prayer: instead of just asking God to orchestrate my day and help me be a blessing to others, I pictured God in his glory and bright light and awesomeness. I think it made a difference because it made me more humble and I felt empowered or something. Can anyone relate to this?

  • Niove Candida Rosario

    Thank you Shirley. It sounds good so I will definitely try it. God bless

  • actsmath

    This past summer I made a habit choice that has changed my life. Talking to my “Pastor” I indicated I probably could not attend daily Mass even though retired. His response: “you could come–it is your choice!” I started soon after and am blessed because of his challenge to me. When unable to attend, I feel lost. I have a new church family and Jesus in my heart due to this. He then invited me to be the weekday sacristan–which job I joyfully accepted. I feel truly blessed for this new “habit”. Thank you God and Father M.!

  • Linda Carmelle

    My good habit was joining dynamic catholic for lent,honestly wasn’t sure when I did how it would turn out ,but its the best decision.My worst habit was panicing.I’m trying harder to think things through before I panic but theres still work needing to be done in this area.