How Do I Know

19 DEC | DAY 21


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By the Dynamic Catholic Team

When it comes to the spiritual works of mercy, it can be difficult to determine the appropriate time to act. For the corporal works, it is pretty easy, right? You will know you need to feed the hungry when you see a homeless person on the side of the road begging for food. Or you will know it’s time to clothe the naked if you see someone, well, without any clothing.

But, while you know someone might be lost in sin or struggling with doubt or ignorant in some way, when is the right time to admonish, counsel or instruct? Well, the answer is, I don’t know. I don’t know you and I don’t know the people in your life. That area of expertise falls to the Holy Spirit. The answers, then, will be the product of prayer.

Letting Go and Letting God

We have been talking a lot the last week or so about what you can do to be an example of God’s mercy to those around you. Today let’s take a step back and spend some time examining the state of our own hearts.

Every once in awhile it becomes important to check your own engine light to see if the tank is empty. After all, you can’t give what you don’t have, so it might be time to refuel.

Let me explain. A few years ago, I was in a session with my spiritual director. I was in the midst of a thirty-minute tirade about the depth of my failure to change the lives of others when the priest stopped me. He inched his chair closer to me and put his hand on my shoulder. He looked me in the eyes and said, “Son, you need to stop trying to save the world on your own. You need to let God love you.”

He went on to explain to me that nearly all of the issues plaguing my life could be boiled down to the reality that I simply refused to let people love me—most especially God.

So I ask you, how well do you let God love you?

The Blessed Mother

There is no one better at letting God love them than Mary. Our Blessed Mother is the epitome of someone who knows how to let God’s love transform her from the inside out.

She was able to give so much because she had allowed God to fill her with so much. Just look at Mary’s immediate reaction to finding out she was the Mother of God. Without hesitation she left her home to serve Elizabeth in her time of need. Think about that for a minute. She found out she was going to give birth to the Savior of the World and she went to go help her cousin! Incredible.

When you receive the love of God in abundance I think you will find that you are consumed by an incredible peace. It is from that place of simple peace and joy that you will be able to clearly see those around you through the eyes of the Blessed Mother and love them in precisely the manner that the Holy Spirit beckons you too.


Do you let God love you?


Examine your heart and identify the ways in which you let God love you and the ways you struggle to let him into your life.


Lord, grant me the awareness to see the ways I block your love and the wisdom to let you into the depths of my being. Help me, through the intercession and example of Mary Queen of Peace, to see your children through Mary’s eyes and to love them as you call me too. Amen.


How can you let God love you?