April 5: A Weekend Away

Day 31

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For more than 20 years I've been talking about the concept of becoming the-best-version-of-yourself. And one of the things I love about the concept is that it, it helps us to make sense of, of everything, OK? It touches on everything, there is no part of your life that it doesn't effect. There's no part of your life that it doesn't help to say, "OK, is this helping me become the-best-version-of-myself or hindering me from becoming a-better-version-of-myself?" And so the concept is very powerful in that sense.

One of the areas I think it phenomenally powerfully, is in the area of friendship. You know, when you think about the friends of your life, OK, and not just your friends right now, but the friends of your life, one thing remains universally true and that is that some people help us become a-better-version-of-ourselves and some people don’t. And that is a two way street. Some people we are helping them become the-best-version-of-themselves, and some people we’re not. In fact worse than that, sometimes we’re hindering someone from becoming a-better-version-of-themselves, because of the type of friendship that we're extending to that person.

And I think it's a great area for us to, to reflect upon in our lives, because I really do believe that sooner or later we rise or fall to the level of our friendships. I really do believe that you can't make this journey alone. You know, when you think about the spiritual journey, when you think about what God is calling you to, you can't make this journey alone. That's why Jesus didn't send them out in ones, he sent them out twos. Because he realized people have bad days. People need to be encouraged. People need to feel like they belong. People need a pat on the back from time to time and say, "Hey, good job." People are people and that's you and me and we have a need to make this journey with other people. And other people have a need to make this journey with us.

And so friendship is a, it's a beautiful thing, but it's also an enormous responsibility because our friendship is either helping people or hindering people from making their spiritual journey. Our friendship is either helping or hindering people from becoming the-best-version-of-themselves. And so, today I think it's good to look around your circle of friends and do an examination. Who's helping you become a-better-version-of-yourself? And then to look around your circle of friends again and say, "How am I helping these people to become the-best-version-of-themselves?"

And to step it up a notch, to take friendship to a new level, to proactively ask ourselves, "OK, how can I help this friend become a-better-version-of-herself . . . or himself.

“I was comfortable and satisfied, and looking back that should have set off alarm bells, but we all have blind spots. If it weren’t for my friends, I would probably be out there doing the same old thing. That would be a tragedy. Thank God for interventions. Thank God for friends who care enough to intervene.”

Matthew Kelly, Resisting Happiness

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Our best friends encourage and challenge us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves. They don't let us waste our lives and they push us to serve powerfully.


Who in your circle is God calling you to encourage or challenge to become a-better-version-of-themselves?


Jesus, help me to strive for meaningful friendships that bring me to you.
Today’s personal reflection features Dynamic Catholic team member Claire Darnell. Claire is our marriage preparation team leader. She comes to us from Atlanta, Georgia. Claire absolutely loves weddings (her favorite piece of mail is save-the-dates), drinks peppermint mochas year-round, and enjoys swimming.

Has a friend ever called you to be a-better-version-of-yourself?

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