“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”
True self-confidence is not conceit or boastfulness; it’s rooted in a strong sense of who you are and a belief that you have something unique and important to give to the world. We all struggle with self-confidence from time to time, so here are three ways to become a more confident person . . .
1. Play to your strengths
Each of us has strengths and weaknesses. Should we pretend we don’t have weaknesses? No. Acknowledge them, but play to your strengths. Focusing on what you’re good at helps you to recognize success, which in turn helps you to build confidence and makes your weaknesses easier to work on.
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a place where all you can see are your weaknesses, gratitude is about to become your new best friend. Think about the gifts God has given you, the attributes that make you who you are, the people that surround you. Keep that in your heart and mind and repeat it often. You were made for greatness and God has already given you the strength you need.
2. Strengthen your identity
Ultimately, self-confidence comes from knowing who we truly are and living that truth. Your identity is not simply a role you play, and it’s not dependent on someone else’s opinion of you. God created you out of love and for a unique purpose. Let this truth anchor you.
Work on becoming more grounded in your deepest identity through prayer and reflection. This is a lifelong activity, but as you continue to discover your identity live your discoveries boldly! You’ll be amazed at the confidence you gain by living boldly the life only you are called to live.
Practice makes perfect, right? Wrong. Perfect practice makes perfect. Don’t just do the same old thing over and over, practice your strengths! Spend some time practicing gratitude. Taking time in the classroom of silence to know who you truly are. Practice it daily.
We say it over and over at Dynamic Catholic: Our lives change when our habits change. Think of learning to drive a car, or running a marathon, or baking the perfect loaf of bread. The more you do something, the more familiar and comfortable it becomes, and the more you gain confidence in it. This goes for anything in life.
Wondering about who you are and what you are here for is a part of what it means to be human. When you’re feeling unsure of yourself, practice these simple steps. Self-confidence isn't something you do, it's the result of something you do. When you spend time with these three steps, self-confidence will follow.
Here’s to you, my friend, and the value only you can bring.